my son is almost 4 and is starting to whine and cry over everything. i pick out a shirt he starts rubbing his eyes and whining saying he doesnt want that shirt, there's not enought ketchup on his plate, he doesnt want chicken nuggets he doesnt want the pop tart broke in half his brother took a toy from him. his brother is 15 months old. i mean whatever he can, he will whine about. i need help i dont know how to break this. alot of it is from my mother (gma!!!) spoiling him and giving him anything he wants. ive gotten the "no" thing under control in a defiant way.

My oldest daughter is 11 and in 5th grade. She rushes through her work all the time and then can't remember what she learned. She acts like she doesn't care at all.

I have tried to talk to her, help her with her homework, punish her for bad grades and nothing seems to work. She just got an ipod for Christmas and it's been taken away more then she's had it. Taking TV privileges away hasn't work b/c I have 3 other kids and one TV, so they get punished too then everyone is miserable. She's also not been allowed to go over friends or have anyone over for a week or two.

What do people think? Is this harmful and counterproductive, or is it a way to let them see that they need to "shape up"? This is a current disagreement in my household. Do we keep the approach of "bad behavior is not ok" or take the approach of "you are bad" to "scared straight" them into better behavior?

I'm looking for some advice. I'm a first time father, and my wife is a first time mother. We have a three year old son.

We started having trouble putting him down to bed when he turned two. He wasn't talking, yet. So, when we would put him down to bed, he would scream bloody murder, climb out of his crib, and pound on the door screaming! At first, my wife would just keep going back in there over and over and over, and even lay with him until he falls asleep.

Hi all: Help! I have a very intelligent and physically advanced 19 month old who will go find our family dog and hit him when I or my husband give him a "no" answer to something he wants. We have tried a number of different responses since the time when he first started doing this to our dog (about 2 months ago).

Last week our five year old daughter took a book from her classroom. Until now, our daughter hasn't had any behavior issues at school this year.

As a parent, I have always believed in swift, age-appropirate consequences. Also, I believe that punishments should be constructive and aimed at guiding effective child development (at least at this age).

After notifying us of what our daughter did, her teacher told us that our daughter will:

1) stand on the wall during student recess for two weeks.

My son is three years old and has recently started crying over any and everything. His father and I are seperated and since he is in the military, he is often gone. For the past month or so, he has been very defiant and seems to be acting out; taking his time to follow direction or requiring duplicate instruction. When corrected, he cries and asks for his father. It is becoming very frustrating for me because I cant change the situation and the crying is (for lack of better words), getting on my nerves.

My son (age 11) attends Catholic CCD class in the evenings and his teacher has disciplined him in front of the class. She had him stand in the center of the room with his arms out to his side (Just as Jesus did on the cross) and she placed a bible in the palm of each hand - this was for two minutes...he lowered his arms a bit because they hurt and she tacked on an additional minute. Is this considered corporal punishment?

I havee a 20 month old grandson and sometimes I think he should be tested for I dont even know, something. lets start he still wakes up about 4 times in the middle of the night it takes a very long time to put him to sleep and when he sleeps he twitches alot. He doesnt talk much, he says one to two word sentences only, he bites all the time we cannot keep him alone even with his older brother. he is very very hyper, my daughter is exhausted, she has tried everything from time out to no toys. I have never seen a child act like this. His brother has bruises from him hitting him with objects.