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stay at hone mom

REFUSES TO EAT

I TAKE CARE OF MY NEPHEW DURING THE DAY. I CAN NOT GET HIM TO EAT ANYTHING, EXCEPT FOR CEREAL, PEANUT BUTTER AND JELLY SANDWICHES, CHICKEN NUGGETS OR AY JUNK FOOD.

I HAVE TOLD MY BROTHER THAT I CAN NOT MAKE SPECIAL MEALS JUST FOR HIM, AND THAT IT IS NOT GOOD FO HIM TO GO ALL DAY WITHOUT EATING. BUT HE SAYS THAT THERE IS NOTHING HE CAN DO ABOUT IT, BECAUSE AT HIS HOUSE IF THE KIDS DON'T WANT TO EAT WHAT IS MADE, THE MOM JUST GIVES THEM A SANDWICH OR MAKES THAM WHATEVER THEY WANT. I CAN NOT DO THAT, I HAVE 5 KIDS THAT I CARE FOR COUNTING MY OWN 2. I CAON NOT MAKE 15 DIFFERENT MEALS A DAY.

I DON MAKE GOOD FOOD, MOSTLY ALL HOMEMADE, THINGS FROM SRATCH. IT'S ALL GOOD FOOD THAT IS HEALTHYAND TASTE GOOD,BUT HE STILL WON'T EAT IT. IF I MAKE HIM TRY A BITE, HE WILL GAG UNTL HESPITS IT OUT.

THE OTHER DAY WHEN HIS MOM CAME TO PICK HIM UP, SHE SAID THAT HIS BREATH SMELLS LIKE HIS BODY IS EATING HIS MUSCLES FROM NOT EATING. I KNOW SHE WANTS ME TO GIVE HIM WHATEVER HE'LL EAT. BUT I WILL NOT FILL HIM WITH FAST FOOD AND JUNK FOOD ALL DAY LIKE THEY DO, JUST SO THAT HE EATS. FOR GOSH SAKE THEY FEED HIM BURGER KING 6 TIMES A WEEK IF THATS WHAT MAKES HIM HAPPY.

DOES ANYONE HVE ANY SUGGESTIONS, I DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TODO!



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acitez

How old is the boy? It may be that he has sensory issues and is unable to eat regular food. It is important that he get some calories in his body or he could have serious health issues.

I have done day care. One of the toddlers would only eat purchased pureed baby food at first. I offered him other choices first, he didn't have to take even a single bite. After the other children had been eating for about five minutes, I would give this boy the food he was accustomed to. He was in my care for about a year. It was only about a month before he was able to eat with the other children.

If this is really something that you can't do, his parents need to find another daycare situation. The little boy is already exhibiting ketosis. He can't stay with you if you can't feed him.

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acitez

If he weren't already in ketosis I would agree, but metabolically that child is already starving.

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stay at hone mom

HE IS 4 1/2 AND 55LBS. HE IS DEFINETLY NOT STARVING.
I FORGOT TO MENTION BEFORE- HE USED TO EAT WHAT I MADE, I HAVE BEEN TAKING CARE OF HIM FOR 2 YEARS. THIS IS A NEW DEVELOPMENT (WITHIN THE LAST 2 MONTHS). HE SPENT A WEEK AT HOME WITH HIS MOM, WHEN HE CAME BACK THAT IS WHEN HE STARTED REFUSING TO EAT.
HIS SISTER ALSO COMES HERE AND EATS WHATEVER I MAKE. I MAKE 3 MEALS A DAY. HE HAS 3 CHANCES TO EAT IN A 10 HOUR PERIOD.
THE DAY THAT SHE HAD SAID THAT HE HAD EATEN 3 PEANUT BUTTER AND JELLY SANDWICHES W/ CHIPS.

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acitez

Ask your brother to get the boy an appointment with a dietitian recommended by the boy's pediatrician. Since he is carrying a lot of fat around, he needs more calories to avoid ketosis, which is one of the confusing things about how the body works. When the body has inadequate calories it will metabolize the muscles before it metabolizes the fat.

Because there is concern shown by the parents about the boy's diet, this will make it so that ALL of you get the information you need to feed the boy properly at home and at your house.

Let us know what the dietitian recommends.

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concerned mom

If there's no consistency between you and the parents, you're always going to struggle getting this boy to eat. It's obvious the parents want their son to eat, but what they are giving him is purely junk. It also doesn't seem like this boy has a problem b/c he's not refusing the junk food, only the healthy food. If it was a sensory issue he wouldn't be eating Burger King or peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. My kids' pediatrician told us to expose our children to all different healthy foods and textures at an early age. Not exposing them to junk food was the best thing we cld do b/c they never knew what they were missing. This boy has been exposed to junk foods, so your job is harder. I personally wld ask the parents to get on board w/ you and try your way of thinking for a while. Like another poster said, this boy is not going to starve. Expose him to only healthy foods, and he'll have no choice but to eat these foods, plain and simple. Once he gets used to this new way of eating, then you can throw in a special treat now and again. You are doing this boy a huge favor by getting him on the right track. Childhood obesity is a major problem, and something needs to be done about it. Be creative in your choices and your presentations of the foods you make. I understand that you're cooking for several children, and I agree that you shldn't have to make different meals for everyone. However, whatever you do make, make it fun. I'm sure all the kids will enjoy eating so much more, especially if you let them help you create the meal as well. Have fun, and don't push the issue. Force feeding will only backfire on you. Good luck!

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stay at hone mom

THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT. IT'S JUST SO FRUSTRATING. I KNOW I'M DOING A GOOD JOB THE OTHER KIDS EAT JUST FINE. IT'S JUST THE STUPID COMMENTS FROM MOM THAT GETS TO ME. HEARING THAT I'M NOT THE ONLY 1 WHO THINKS THIS WAY HELPS. MY HUSBAND AGREES WITH ME BUT SAYS TO JUST MAKE IT EASY ON MYSELF AND KEEP THE PARENTS HAPPY. CAUSE THEIR WHAT KEEPS ME HOME WITH OUR BOYS.