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MAJ

I want a baby and I dont think I can have one..

When I was with my ex fiancee we wanted a baby and were planing the wedding so we could try to get pregnant and then get married because we both wanted it that way and we tired and tried and after almost 6 months of trying I took my last pregnancy test and still nothing and after that day all we ever did was fight and then we took a break and he found someone else because trying to and couldnt get pregnant broke us us because we didnt think we could ever have one... well a few months after we broke up I met someone and he and I have been together for almost a year now and he has a a baby thats just over a year old but the parents of the babys mom have her and we are trying to get her and we want to give her a little brother or sister and we are getting married in 5 or 6 months and I still dont think I can get pregnant. We havent been trying to hard but we havent been preventing it either. I want a baby weather its now or 3 years from now I just want a baby and be the best parent I can be, but he is going back and forth with the "I want one" and "I dont want one yet" and we will try all week when we think its the right time and then the week after he'll say "I sure hope your not pregnant" and it hurts. I just dont know what to do? Help me



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mayamay

Develop your career. Save up some money. Find someone who has a good career and some money saved. Develop a relationship that is founded on something other than sex and/or children.

The best thing you can do for this man's little girl is to convince him to put her first, and that means his money, his time, and his attention are hers, and hers alone.

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2xstepmom

Does not sound like he is on the same page as you are. Take mayamay's excellent advice.

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junieg

If you are determined to do the best for your fiance's daughter then getting pregnant yourself would be a big mistake. You both need to concentrate on giving this little girl the best start in life but I have to say that you don't sound ready or mature enough for that yet. Sorry to be so blunt but it sounds like her life is already in so much turmoil that you will have to be very careful. I know she is only a year old but if she doesn't have the right attachment to a parent or carer then everything could go badly wrong. I urge you to concentrate on her welfare and forget about any plans to get pregnant at the moment.