Troubling situation with new step daughter
I am desperate for help and advice... Coming in as the new "step mom to be" apx 6months ago I have realized it's not so easy.
The child is 13 now, very immature (still plays with baby toys, doesn't have hygeine guidance (her mother is NOT teaching her good things or enforcing them- nor is she a good role model in this dept.), we pay $450 a month in child support and the child comes over every other weekend and only has rubber clogs for shoes, no warm jacket, etc. (She isn't "allowed" to bring other shoes, supposably doesn't have any- when she did wear her "school shoes" over one weekend she got into trouble and they were KMart, velcrow sneakers that were demolished.)
One of my biggest concerns is her eating habits. She REFUSES to eat bread, hamburger, etc. She ONLY eats hot dogs (cold and cooked), chips, candy, cookies, chicken, bologna, pizza, etc. She won't eat milk in her cereal and will only eat cereals such as cocoa pebbles or fully loaded sugar foods, if we run through somewhere while we're out for lunch she will only eat a large frie and then want candy or cookies... she literally is in some serious danger! It's absolutley crazy! I don't know what to do!
We are now expecting a baby in a few months, she refuses to "grow up" or mature in any way and her mother supports this, she won't eat properly and tells her mom we don't have food here for her, she wants to lay on the couch and watch preschool aged cartoons and play video games- we can't get her to play a bord game with us or card game. She is scaring me and for the sake of the new baby I can't get over this behavior and situations.
Can someone please help. We can't afford to live off the $800 a month we get and her mother gets $450 from us for support alone and the child needs obvious help in many areas... I don't know what to do... Please, Please help me!