Hi, I am new to the boards.  Have a problem that I am hoping I will find someone that also is experiencing the same ordeal.  Maybe a little unusual, but am hoping that I am not the only person in this situation.  My daughter has  a MIL that is very controlling and so is her husband, so she has just conformed to only spending time with his side of the family and leaving the rest of us out of her life.  We all live in the same town, so it breaks my heart to see them spending every day doing things together.  I was hoping once the kids came, she would include me in the grandmother role, but not happening.  She is angry with me because she thinks I am being childish and that she had to share me with her step sisters for 18 years, so guess now it's her turn to get back at me for that, which of course is only part of the problem.  She says that her relationship with her MIL "is what it is" and that I just need to accept it.  She did not even recognize me on Mother's Day and did apologize for that about 3 days later with a card and a letter that expressed how she felt and that I am just supposed to "get over it."   That probably hurt me more than anything she has done for the 30 years.  I hate being obsessed with this, but just can't get it worked out in my mind that she doesn't want me to be a part of her life in any way.   Hard to give up mainly because of the grandkids.  I know they will never know us anyway, but just have to pray that something will change some day for the better and God will answer the pleas I have to him to help.  My husband doesn't think I need counselling because I can't make her change, but I am so sad and just hoping someone sees this and has some suggestions on how to cope.  Sad mom in the midwest