My husband and I have been together for five years married for 2. He has two kids from his ex-wife. I has one from a pervious relationship. And we have one together. My son has only known one dad in his life and thats my hubsand.

Heres one of my problems. The oldest is 12 the only girl ill refer to her as SD step daughter. the oldest boy is 10 i'll refer to him as ST step son. The SD has tried starting many problems between her mother and I. With success. But her mother and I have solved the problems SD was only telling half of the story she made things sound relly bad. This is countuneing to be a problem. She had candy at a football game we all went to got money from a friend of her mothers. So I buy the rest of the kids the same candy. Only because she came waving it at the other 3 kids. And now I found out she got very upset over that cause I didnt get her one. She saying she felt left out!
Then my husband tells me too try to look at it from her view?? WHAT!!!

Here another problem the ex is letting my SD to run around the park with some boy she met. My SD has told me a few things like he's been begging for a kiss and they been hugging. So I ask her how things go only cause i'm concerned. Now i'm getting blamed for making her feel like she being interrogated!! The SS feels this way too and all I ask Is simple questions how you day go ..ect. And my husband acts as if its not a big deal!!! Im with them kids alot more than their mom or dad.

One more big one my SS He is soo disrespectful with me its gettig extreme and out of control. He constantaly smart mouths me (never with dad home) Last year he was mad at me and kicked me, he yells at me. I used to yell back now I keep my cool even though i'm on fire on the inside. I wait to tell my husband till he gets home from work all my SS ever gets is talked too!! Its not working at all I I have tried and tried with this kid. I love them both as if they were my own. It breaks my heart I being treated this way I do soo much for all of them.

I'm at the end of my rope with all of it Every time I bring it up with my husband abot being too easy on SS we always end up fighting. If my son would do anything like what SS does he be grounded for life!! He is alot stricter on my son than his own. but he hubsand can't see that. When I bring it up were fighting again!! HELPPPP!!

Thank you for taking the time to help