Stepdaughter may live with us?
I am having the worse anxiety at the thought of my 12 year old step daughter live with my husband and I is causing me great stress, Up until years ago I would have welcomed her into my home, but the past couple of years have been tough, when my stepdaughter turnred 10 she figured out how to manipulate her dad and play her mother against her father. (Even though I have great concerns about her mothers parenting skills) 1 1/2 years ago we found that my step daughter had a massive brain tumor in the brainstem, this news devastated everyone and our main objective was to get her well and happy again. This diagnosis changed my husband, I could understand it, I didn't do anything but support all of them emotionally and financially. My husband took time of work to be with his daughter, after she left the hospital she stayed with us the enitire summer and I still paid support to her mom. Now that my stepdaughter is recovered from the surgery ( for now) she and my husband are inseparable,which for the most part I can understand,but she has taken on the role of a adult,she talks to her dad like total crap, she guilts him out to extremes and so does her mother ie this could be her last Christmas,summer,birthday etc..so in turn all of his attention goes to her, I get all of the backlash, if he says it to the ex. she'll stop him from seeing his daughter and he can't say it to the daughter, many other people have noticed this change in him and doesn't feel it's healthy, some have even called it emotional incest for the additional reasons, he tells her finacial issues, about arguments between his ex or myself and him, he always has babied her, I fear I can't live 24hrs a day like this, but than I feel I am being selfish. any feedback will be more appreciated than you know.