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paul wood

stepdaughter jeolous of mum

Hi my stepdaughter is jeolous of her mum and of her love given to me, that it has made it almost inpossible to live with each other,with which were not doing at the moment. my wife has become ill with it all.Now we are going through the starting process of devorce.We have had a successful marrige,six years of marrige and ten years total together,so now Danielle is eleven,louise is thirty five and i am fourty one. I have no kids of my own, danille is like my own, but has a farther who she visits every two weeks and has done from the start. I delt with the fact he was always going to be around and also knowing that there was always going to doult in my mind that we were not going to live a normal family life.
Louise is addopted and has not had much love shown her,as where danille has had her share ten times over mainly because she has had my family who are very easy going.most of her time of her time has been spent with my family, louise inclueded she found love from me and my family what could possibley go wrong. Until she started to show a jeolous side to her that i thought was just growing up mood swings, until she started playing with her mums emotions eg returning back from weekend stay with her farther, and seemed to be up set but she couldent say why, it seemed after about the third time i noticed she was unhappy about mum being happy. she always looked happy when her mum was unhappy. and that from a child who has had a good start in life with a lot of help from every direction yet she looked happy to she her mum sad. Now that apart she has took total control and louise is ill from it all. i try to reasure her things will get better but she now insists that we see each other in secretley, i dont know what to do because danielle has got such jeolous streak in her that the problem is still there now she has her mum to her self.my wife has always had issues with her mum and dad controling her like she always felt love was missing till she met me, and then there was issues that she had changed now she was happy but the word happy was not used. paul thanks



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acitez

Pre-adolescent girls, like Danielle, are very moody. It is really hard to understand what they are thinking and feeling. Perhaps you could find a counselor through the schools or your church that could help you figure out how you can repair, or at least understand,the relationships in your family.

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acitez

Just curious, have there been changes at her natural father's home? I was just wondering if there were disruptions there: new girlfriend/wife, new baby, a second divorce, even a new job or change of address, that could be impacting her.