Stepdaughter jealous of me and her fathers relationship and our new child to be!
First I would like to say that I love my stepdaughter! My husband and I have been married for 8 1/2 years and we have dreamed of having a child. I thought that I would never have a child of my own so this is why I have tried so hard with my husbands children. When we were married his children were 10 and 12 years old. They lived with their mother and we had visitation every monday and wednesday from 5 to 7:30 pm and every other weekend and 2 2week periods in the summer. The whole time they lived with her they did nothing but beg to live with us. My stepson came to live with us his junior year and we had some rough patches but for the most part he respected me and treated me like a mother figure and has told me that I helped make him the man he is today. This makes me so proud. My stepdaughter came the next year at the beginning of her sophmore year to live with us. Before she lived with us she and I were like so close like we were best friends and when she was here on visits she would go and do everything with me. But then as soon as she moved here she hated me and let me know it everyday. She seemed very jealous of any and all attention that her dad gave me. It felt like a switch was flipped and I was the enemy. Now my stepson is now almost 21 and is expecting his first child and he treats me as one of his parents. My stepdaughter is now 19 and she moved out back in December because her and her father kinda had it out and of course it had nothing to do with me I stayed out of it but some how she has made it all my fault. We found out in March that I'm pregnant, which was a miracle and a big shock to both me and my husband. I never thought it was possible, but now I will be having my own child. Of course it was a shock to both children. At first my stepson was upset because him and his wife are expecting, but now he seems to be really happy for us. My stepdaughter on the other hand has just found another reason to hate me. No matter what I do she will just not except me in her life and she seems to just try to cause trouble between me and my husband. I feel that other than the daughter issue we have an amazing marriage. Now that I'm expecting he really makes over me and it feels good. We live in a very small house and the most logical nursery is my stepdaughters old room. Which has cause even more problems! I want my child to have its own room and not only that I want to make a nursery for our child because this will be our 1 and only child together! Is it wrong to want this? Maybe I'm being selfish in wanting this! What to do I have no idea!