my husband hates my son... what do I do?
My husband and I have been together for 3 years. We recently married in May of this year. I have 3 step children and I have 3 children of my own. My kids are 23 (lives on his own) 17 (son) and 15 (daughter) my step kids are younger. step son who is 9 and the twins just turned 5.
My son who is 17 graduates in 2011. He is a junior now and the star player on the hockey team. My husband had ALWAYS had issues with my son, and has no problem confronting me with his thoughts, which usually aren't very nice. My son last summer stayed in his room and never went out because of Joe (my husband) accusing him of being up to no good. It worried me and I asked my son why don't you go out with your friends. His reply was sad... He said he would much rather just stay in his room than to go out and be accused of doing something bad that he didn't do. (this is caused by Joe). I told him to enjoy his teenage years, go and have fun. Joe has had a real hard time with this! He locks my son out at night. He wakes me screaming at me about what time he comes in.. down to who he is hanging out with! Just being a jerk about what my son is doing. I found out a few months back my son was drinking, but didn't fess up to it right away... Joe jumped off the couch and attacked my son physically and I had to seperate them while screaming and crying for Joe to stop! BUT.. Joe did get my son to admit that he was drinking and smoking ciggarets. I was shocked with Joe doing such an act that he got my son to respond. I have been talking to my son, and as far as I know he isn't drinking but he is still smoking. I have taken him to the doc for this and I am still riding him. BUT thinking things could really be much worse and he IS 17 years old!!!! He is almost at the age he can vote!
OH I FORGOT TO ADD... My daughter can do no wrong (I love her to death, she is a very good girl) in Joe's eyes, and my step children are angels in Joe's eyes as well. It is just my 17 year old son. OH and did I mention Joe is an alocholic? I go to meetings trying to save my marriage because of HIS drinking problems.
My son has been using my car as Joe doesn't own one himself..
I am out of town and Joe called me (drunk) and yelling at me about my son. He had his girlfriend over while he was in the shower. It was stupid this phone call. He was mad at my son for having a wet towel on our room. He basically was acusing my son of having sex. He said he came home and she came outside to see who was in the driveway. He went in and couldn't find my son, but found a wet towel on the floor! Joe just LOST IT!!! I hung up on him and called my son. He told me he took a shower at home after his hockey game and changed into his cloths in my room so he didn't have to walk past his GF in just a towel. Well.. to me that makes sence! Joe won't talk to me. He is just lost it!!!
What do I do and why is he abusing my son like this? Do I leave? I don't want my son to hate me because his step father has it out for him. This is like living in hell!
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