Husband treats daughter and stepdaughter different
Hi, I'm new here and just thought this might help me. My husband treats his daughter (12) and my daughter (soon to be 14) different. Don't get me wrong, he loves my daughter like his own, but it seems that everything she does or says is wrong to him! When it's just me and my daughter, she comes out of her room, laughs and jokes with me, when he's there, she stays in her room 95% of the time because I know she just doesn't want to get in trouble by him! What usually happens is the 2 girls will do the exact same thing, and my daughter gets in trouble and he doesn't say a word to his daughter. And if his daughter ever gets in trouble, he reprimands her in a very nice way.. the way it should be with my daughter! It's really just gotten out of hand lately, just stupid stuff that I know is driving my daughter crazy. She's even told me she doesn't understand how she gets in trouble and his daughter never does! So she sees what's happening... I just am at a loss of what to do. I stand up for my daughter infront of her, of course that causes fights between him and I. And his daughter is very sneaky, she acts totally different infront of him, than she does without him there! She knows what she's doing. I'm getting to a point where I don't know whether to just call his daughter out when she does stuff I know he would yell at my daughter for. He's very hard headed and obviously doesn't see what he's doing and doesn't want to see it in my opinion. Counseling is out of the question. I know he loves my daughter, but it's getting ridiculous. By the way, he's been in our lives since she was 7 years old. And his daughter does not live with us. If someone has been thru this and/or has advice, please help me, I'm at my wits end!!! Thank you in advance!