Disrespectful Stepmother following Dad`s death
I am 45 years old and have one older sister. My parents have been divorced since I was 1 year old. For years we have been the joy of my dad`s life. 3 years ago he had gotten remarried to a person my sister and I actually loved and respected. My Dad passed away 4 weeks ago, and we don`t understand why my stepmother is being so very cruel to us. When they were married my father was going to make a will but she promised she would go by his wishes, and we all believed her. The day he passed away, for some reason, she turned against us. She is only allowing her children (my dad`s step kids) to come into his home and split up his personal items. There are many things in his home, such as my grandmother`s dishes, old family pictures, items I made him as a child that he kept all these years, are now all either given away or destroyed. We have asked her why, why are you going against dad`s wishes, and she only replies because she can.
I not only cry everyday for my dad, but I also feel that the love we had for my stepmother was a joke on her part, and it hurts us even more. We need her support to help us grieve for our Dad, but all we are getting is rejection. If anyone out there can advise me on how to forgive and move on, please reply.