Daughter/sister in a blended family drama
I live in a blended 'family' consisting of myself, age 20, my brother, age 18, my sister age 15, my other sister age 13, my half-sister age 2 and finally my father and stepmother. In our recent house I share a room with my 13 and 15 year old sister, next door is my dad and stepmom, then across my 2 year old half-sister in her own room and next door to her my brother. Along with the stress of still living at home and having no privacy, it seems like there is a battle going on everyday. It just doesn't seem like we are blending. We have only been a blended family for 3 years now. Right before I moved in with them I found out from my mother that my father and now stepmother had gotten married a few months previously and are expecting. So I was upset that my father never told me or my siblings about this. After we were living with him, a few months later my stepmother had my half-sister. Although I do love my half-sister, I find it annoying that she seems to be treated better than me and my other siblings. Like we are second class citizens. I understand my stepmother's side, because it's her first child, so that is expected, but my father sometimes acts like my half-sister is his only child. I guess I'm a bit jealous because he was out of the picture most of my life and my siblings. I just don't see how can ever be a family. My stepmother acts too much as a mother, with disciplining and yelling, and trying to run our lives. We had a mother, we don't need another. I mean isn't there some type of boundary line for a stepmother? Since my dad lost his job and is going back to school, she is the provider. But when it comes to raising my siblings I think there is a time for her input and another when my father needs to be doing the raising. If that makes sense. Me and my siblings feel like my father, stepmother and half-sister are their own little family, and we're just here. Examples of that is that they go off and do things together, such as going to a downtown fair, going out to eat breakfast or dinner. How do mixed families actually become families? What really should be the role of my stepmother? We had a mother, but she chooses not to be apart of our lives, so we don't really want another. Shouldn't she just try to be a friend instead of a mother? Well, that's it for my ranting at the moment. Thanks for reading.