Why are teenages girls so difficult. I have three daughters from my first marriage 20 years ago. ( 20,18, 17 and a 7 year old from my current marraiage).I have always felt guilty for breaking up the family and have been told recently by my ex-husband that I wasn't and still am not a good mother and he tells me that the girls believe that too. The girls all live with me , they all do that by their choice. The problem that I have noticed as they get older is they are never home , just to occassionaly eat and always sleep here. They all have boyfriends and always go to their homes. I would really like to spend time with these youn ladies but they don't have time for me unless they need something, like the car or money or something for school.My youngest of the 3 has recently told me that she doesn't like coming home. I don't like coming home to this either.