15 yr daughter out of control and step dad of 13 yrs has had it,help
I am a mother of 3 girls, 15,10,7.My 7,and 10 yr olds are mine and my husbands. my 15 yr old is not my husbands. her dad died 5 yrs ago and was not around but once a month.My husband has been around since she was 2 yrs old. My husband and 15 yr old has never gotten along well but this last year she has shoved him and touched his nose with hers and said you can't touch me. She has called names, and her and I have had physicall altercations. Although she has been disrespectfull, he picks and points out every little thing she does wrong. I have come out and confronted him about it recently and he admits to not liking my daughter and treating her differently. And I confronted my daughter as well and she admits to provoking him and doing things on purpose just to make him mad. I have thought about moving out with my 15 yr old but we are broke, and I don't want to leave my other 2 daughters, they would not understand. we only have 2 1/2 more years before she is 18 but SHE and HE are making my house unlivable for me and my other 2 girls 10,7.I love my husband and divorce is farthest thing from our minds we just need to grow my 15 yr old up. and hope she has not been a bad influence on the 2 little ones already. we have tried counseling only insurance will not pay for family counseling.don't know what to do.is this bad enough to move out or how do I get these two people I love to get along????If my 15 byr old and I got our own place I know she would go wild while I was at work. then what kind of kid would she turn out to be. The only time she gets physical with me is when my husband is not home.So worried about choosing the right path for my teenager.I wish I could send her to boot camp. I f she was not so disrespectful to us, I think my husband would ease up on her. But no one is backing off.He would never physically hurt her ever. but I can't tolerate them arguing all the time.