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concerned mom

Son turning 5 and just labeled communication impaired. Anyone w/ experience in this area?

Hi everyone,
I've posted here many times, initially to get advice/opinions about my son and his various challenges. First of all, I'd like to thank all of you who have supported me through this process. My son will be turning 5 next month, and we just had his IEP meeting. He also completed all the necessary testing. We were pleased w/ how well he did in most areas of the testing. However, in the area of speech and language, his scores were quite low. Based on his test results, he did well receptively, but not so well expressively. His IQ was found to be in the normal to high normal range, which was great to hear. Despite all his stronger areas, however, our son still struggles w/ speech and language. Therefore, he qualifies for special education under the label of Communication Impaired. Do any of you have experience w/ this area or know what it means? Also, do you feel your child got all the services he/she needed under this label? I'm just trying to understand this better, so I can better help my son. He hasn't been officially diagnosed yet. We were only told he's delayed. His speech therapist also suspects he may have a language processing disorder, but that's all we know. Anyway, I know you can't diagnose my son, but if you have any experience at all w/ this label, can you please pass on some advice. Thanks so much.



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tntd1234

Hi I have a son thats 10yrs. He's had IEP from preschool to now. In speech and a few other subjects. He had ear problems as a new born. That was over looked or the infections were to far a part. They ended up putting tubs in his ears but not until he was in 1st grade. By then his speech was really bad. Hes been in special education for 4 yrs. He will be in 4th grade next school year. The speech therapist is a great help. She can teach you a few things to help your child at home as well. Make sure you correct your child on his speech. Make sure you speak up at these IEP meetings. If you dont agree or dont understand speak up. You know your son more then the school. At my meeting I make sure we are doing the best for my son. And yes I have spoke up on his behalf. Then we all agree one way or another. I do need to say sence my son has been in specials he is now in 2 regular class. And it was all around speech. Think about this, if you cant say a word right. How can you spell it right or read it the right way. He is talking alot better now and everyone can understand him. He still falls back on his old ways but thats what we are here for to bring them back around. One more thing, his brother (7rs old) picked up on his speech. I say the two of them have there own language. He's in regular classes but hes in speech. He maybe in regular classes but, it is really hard on him in reading, spelling. And that comes back to speech. Also please dont feel like hes labled. Just work with him on this. Make up word games, and have fun. At the same time he will learn. And he will feel better about himself. I know what it was like when my son would try to talk to a friend or family member and they would look at me say what did he say. That would upset him so much. Sometimes he would just close up on me and say never mind its nothing. Looking back it was hard on everyone. He has made big improvments. Just stick with the IEPs if it goes that way. But dont let the school deside everything. Stand up for your son. I hope this helped you out some. Good luck to you and your son.

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concerned mom

Dear tntd 1234,

Thank you for your advice and support. It helps to know I'm not in this alone. I wish you all the best w/ your son as well. It's a long haul, and it takes a lot out of parents like ourselves, but I believe that all our efforts will pay off in the end. Good luck w/ everything on your end!

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concerned mom

PS--How is your son doing socially? My son is only going into kindergarten, so really it hasn't been an issue, but I worry about his future. Any advice on this?

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multicategorica...

You have done the right thing. By accepting the IEP meeting and making sure your son has a chance to get what he needs. WHAT DOES HE NEED? That is a complex question. As the parent of a son to be kindergartner with a communication disorder you have made the most important step. Which is admitting he has and issue and exact details will come together. School makes things click for children so things might become clearer for him or his verbal processing may stay of same.

IN THE BEGINNING OF THE YEAR THE TEACHER WILL BE ASSESSING YOUR SONS NEEDS AND WHAT ACCOMMODATIONS AND MODIFICATIONS HE NEEDS.

So all you can do is make sure he goes to school everyday and constantly check in with his teacher, speech pathologist, etc.

Dont worry yourself with thoughts of oh my god will he have friends.

I will do a seperate post and tell you about a little boy I helped with who didnt talk at all. He was a selective mute.

As a first year primary special education teacher I applaud you for accepting help for your son. Kindergarten special education will create a environment that will give your son more one on one interactions. Which should make him more comfort talking and working on speech issues.

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multicategorica...

So 2008 -2009 will be my first year teaching primary special education severe behavior disorder and emotional disorder. But I was a teacher's aide in a communication disorders (k-2) classroom for two years.

Most students had severe speech and language issues, as well as the inability to properly express their feelings along with not being able to decode expressions and tone of voice.

We take for granted being able to tell if someone is happy, sad, angry, etc by their tone of voice or their facial expression.

Sometimes part of communication disorders is the inability to changes in speech.

All these things can be worked in class and lessons on feelings and emotions can be integrated into basic curriculum.

As far as special education the curriculum is a stepping stone and accommodations(minor changes) or modifications ( major changes ) will need to be made for almost everything.

Dont feel bad asking the teacher what she plans to do to address certain issues or what you can do to help your son. (Give the teacher time to assess you son first. A few weeks then ask.)

I'll close with this. I had a severe stuttering problem growing up. They wanted to put me in special education my parents said no.

But they demanded speech services for me. I went to speech in hour a day. From kindergarten to fifth grade. My speech issue was big because I could express myself and felt uncomfortable talking in front of other students.

However I was able to stay in the "regular classroom" because when testing on information. I always had full comprehension.

I am 28 now and that was in the middle 80's when no one really knew what special education was.

SPECIAL EDUCATION IS GOOD THING.

MY STUDENTS WILL GET MORE LOVE AND INDIVIDUALIZED ATTENTION TO THEIR SPECIFIC NEEDS THEN WOULD BE POSSIBLE IN SPECIAL EDUCATION.

SPECIAL EDUCATION IS GOOD BECAUSE IT BUILT TO MOVE SLOWLY AND REVIEW AND RETEST THINGS.

"REGULAR EDUCATION" IS FAST PACE AND THEIR ARE EXPECTATIONS AND TIME LINES.

"SPECIAL EDUCATION" HAS TIME LINES BUT IT IS BUILT TO MAKE SURE THE STUDENTS PROCESSES THE INFORMATION.

GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR SON. STAY IN CONTACT WITH SCHOOL. ASK A MILLION QUESTIONS. IF THE SCHOOL GETS MADE OR ACTS TOUCHLY. REMEMBER YOUR JOB IS TO MAKE SURE YOUR SON GETS WHAT HE NEEDS NOT TO MAKE THINGS EASIER FOR THE TEACHERS AND STAFF.

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concerned mom

Dear multicateg,

Thank you so much for all your advice. It's very reassuring. It's also nice to hear a teacher's perspective on this issue as well. Thank you for your help.

multicategorical special education teacher's picture
multicategorica...

A involved parent makes all the differences.

joannmckean's picture
joannmckean

Look under CAPD for info about this also. Labeling can be very limiting. Language and speech are so interactive with all aspects of social life and educational life and just LIFE. My son has had an IEP from preschool to present and I have had good and bad experiences with speech therapists, teachers, etc. in trying to get his needs met. I agree that an involved parent makes all the difference. Don't hesitate to work out what you believe is best for your son.

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concerned mom

Thank you, joannmckea. I recently read a bk called, "Like Sound through Water" by Karen Foli. It's a beautiful story based on the life of a boy w/ APD. I liked it b/c it's a real life account of this boy and his family. It's not a medical book. The book is written by this boy's mom, from the heart, so it's very easy to relate to. The author's website is: www.karenfoli.com or karenfoli@bluemarble.net
Ck it out if you're interested. Thank you again for your support.

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saroyah6

same thing with my child. i don't feel that she is getting the services needed.