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confusedandlost

What rights do a father have if the mother gets the baby taken away?

My fiance had a baby 13 months ago with who was a girlfriend at the time and she broke up with his when the baby was only 3 months old and she got caught smoking meth and before the state took the baby she signed all her rights over to her grandmother, and when the state asked who the father was she lied and said she didnt know. If you saw the baby she looks just like her daddy. But now the great grandmother is pushing for child support from the my fiance but he has not gotten to exercise his rights. What can he do, they wont give him a chance to have his daughter but they want child support when they have more then enough money.... Please Help us, this beautiful baby needs atleast one parent in her life...........



2xstepmom's picture
2xstepmom

Has he had a DNA test done? If so, and he is the father, then he needs to persue parental rights through the courts.

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SnglDad

Ditto what 2X said. Dad needs to stop asking for these peoples permission to see his kid and start the process. First thing is to petition the courts for a DNA test to establish paternity. If the results cme back that he is the father, and mother has signed over her rights to the child, depending on what state you live in, dad could get full custody. Do not wait too long to start this. In the mean time, pay nothing for child support, it could be considered a gift. If the child needs clothes or diapers offer to buy what the child needs. This is not a case for a divorce attorney. Dad needs to call jis local BAR Assoc and get a list of attorney's who specialize in parental rights. Good luck.

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SnglDad

Now that I went on my rant;typo's and all, I'll answer your question. Dad, because mom and dad were not married at the time of the childs birth, has no rights until paternity is established. Get an attorney mucho pronto, or look in your area for a parents rights support group that can help with filing court papers and procedures.

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mayamay

I have a question, and I'm not assuming I know the answer, I just wonder.
Does he really want to be a daddy, to make the sacrifices that daddies make? Does he want to always live in the same town as his little girl so he can see her often enough and for long enough to have a real relationship? Does he want to be there to celebrate her successes and help her cope with her failures? Does he want to teach her what a real man looks like, so that when she starts looking for a man, she knows what to look for? Does he want her to take first place in his concern, even if that means that he doesn't have other children? And if he does, why didn't he seek visitation before the grandma started seeking financial support? Is this about him having his parental rights, or is it about her having a parent?

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mayamay

If there really is no financial need, it seems to me that the grandma's agenda might just be to get this man to step up emotionally. "Where your treasure is, there will your heart be, also." Luke 12:34

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Animated Life

hi,

i am a dad and has finally gotten some rights over my daughter.

he has a chance but the first thing he needs to do is get a lawyer and be willing to spend for it.

1) he needs to prove his paternity
2) he needs to give acceptable reasons for being unable to be there in the beginning
3) he needs to prove he is fit to become a dad now financially, emotionally and physically. even his work and family will be checked.

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SnglDad

Animated, glad to hear that you will be involved in you daughters life. Too many dad's feel it is an impossible battle to undertake and allow the mother to make all the decisions as to when or if they may see their child/children. If our children are not worth fighting for, what is? Congrats to you and your daughter.