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LadyWriter

Moody 15 year old daughter

I have two teenagers that are 11 months apart. My son is 14 and my daughter is 15. Both naturally have completely different personalities. My son can be mouthy and short tempered but when he does something wrong, he admits it. He's pretty straight forward with the things he does.

My daughter however, is a whole other ball of wax. She tells me only what she thinks I want to hear and her moodiness is really starting to spill onto me. Although I'm strong of character and I had a horrible childhood, I triumphed over all that and I love being a mom. I'm very sensitive of nature and I'm trying to find a way of separating my emotions towards my daughter's mood swings, from the issues themselves so I won't take them so personally. Two weeks ago she had moved to Ontario from BC, to live with her father who I divorced. She was DESPERATE to get out of this town she said. Yet being there two weeks, she wanted to come back home. My ex husband has a fiance and there's 4 children there, only one my ex husband has with her. My daughter suddenly wanted to come back home and she did. Although I told her it's not a revolving door and I don't want her to play her father and me against each other. Well she came back and she's so moody, curt and borderline rude. I try to talk with her but she's so guarded. I'm not sure how to proceed with this issue. I'm getting very concerned.



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ChrisOssman
I'm going through a similar situation with my 15 year old step daughter. She has those mood swings and I find it nearly impossible to deal with her when she's in one of her moods. Before it got to this point however, I sat her down and told her that in the coming years, there would be times when we wouldn't like each (or at least that it would appear that way). I also told her that I loved her and would continue to love her. I think it helped for her to know that we would have our ups and downs, but that we would get through them intact as long as we both understood that this period would be temporary.
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ChrisOssman
What I've found is that there have been times when she thought I was an idiot, but when those suggestions I made were also offered by other adults she respected, it made her realize that I am looking out for her best interests. At other times, I've simply not pressed her when she didn't want to talk. Sometimes, they'll come to you all on their own. Try talking to your daughter when you're both getting along well. Try to explain to her (at this time) that her defiance, anger, sarcasm or whatever behavior you dislike hurts.
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chaCHA386
Well, have a talk with her and tell her that her new attitude is not cool. Handling teens is difficult for every parent but parents need to step up and be firm with their teens. Teaching them the right way to behave is a good way to handle it because this is the only way they will learn from past mistakes. Talk to them and discuss it calmly. Good luck.