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child mental health

was wandering if anyone could offer me some advice. I am getting really worried about my sons behaviour. He hass aspergers and tourettes but i cant quite put my finger on it but i think there is definitely something else.he jumps on other kids, he says completely inappropriate conversations. I am scared that he has some underlying mental health issue that the camms team havent spotted. When i got his diagnosis, they said he isnt a clear cut case so they will just keep seeing him, but still i have no explanation. He seems obsessed with death and other tabboo subjects. And is also saying alot of rude words at the minute and i cant think where he got them from. I am a single mum, he is never around older boys, and i dont have a man around so he certainly hasnt heard them from me! Please help, worried mum nic x Any advice will be greatly accepted, i will not get offended if its not nice xi just want my son to be healthy and happy .



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acitez

How old is the boy, both by birthday and according to his developmental age? When kids start to understand death it can seem to overwhelm some of them. As for language, they hear it everywhere. Today at the gas station a couple of bad words got tossed into my daughter's ears before I could do a thing about it.

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nicd1981

my son is 9 years old, but id say he is more around six in behaviour but educationally he is well advanced. He has a 130 iq , i know kids hear bad words everywhere but the word he said is vile. he was actually talking about what a man does to a woman but in a horribly slang way. We are from Liverpool england so im not sure if you would of heard it if your american . and the death thing, well he said he dreams about killing people. Thats not right. Im quite scared that if i dont get help soon it might be to late, i may be overreacting but im afraid x

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acitez

If he has said these things once, you reacted and told him that they were each wrong, and why, and then he stopped, or just two times, then I wouldn't worry. If he continues to do these things after you have registered disapproval, then he does need to be seen. As far as dreams, I've told my kids that they do have some control over what they dream, if a dream is going a bad direction, they can change the direction. It usually works.

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nicd1981

i have tried to talk to him about these things, he doesnt think he is doing anything wrong, he has a specialist for his aspergers who is good at what he does but i am struggling to get hold of him at the minute and i feel like they are just forgetting about my son, Think they are misunderstanding his intelligence as a sign he doesnt need there input but we do. he is due to see an educational social worker tommorrow to go through his school review. I may mention my worries to her , see if she can recomend a course of action.thanks nic x

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concerned mom

I wld suggest that your son sees a highly trained psychiatrist and also a neurologist. If he's been to these specialists before, get another opinion elsewhere. Also, is you son taking any medication? There are side effects to many meds, or maybe your son just needs the right medication to better help him. I agree that something else may be going on here, but w/ many disorders/syndromes come trickles of various behaviors seen in other mental health issues. Every child is different, so you need to get your son evaluated for his unique situation, not for what is considered "the norm" for other children w/ similar issues like your son's.
Also, is your son's school offering him any special services? If not, you need to get on board w/ them as well to better help your son. I wish you all the best.