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Young Sibling Rivalry

My son is 7 and my daughter is 4 (5 in Dec).  They almost fight constantly!  I know it's seems the same old song and dance, but I'm going nuts over it.  They are not violent per se to each other, just constantly bicker and aggrevate each other.  My son has starting peeing in his pants during the day now.  I'm not sure if it's nerves over starting school again or not.  Their father and I are divorced, but we share custody; one week on/off.  We both have new partners and the kids have met them.  I've had my boyfriend longer and he has 3 kids of his own.  All the kids seem to get along great when they're together, but mine will not leave one another alone.  I've tried one on one time with them (which is difficult sometimes), arts and crafts to keep them busy, go to the park for excersise, movie time, I even have sponsored a child to give my son a pen pal.  But it seems nothing works.  He has never been dry at night; he wears the "night time pants".  His sister who is 2.5 yrs younger is dry day and night.  I've tried "bribing" him with things he can earn if he stays dry, but all of this is to no use.  Any suggestions?  He has his pediatrician appointment in 2 weeks and I'm thinging about asking her for meds.

thanks, Patti

twinangels's picture

My friend wet his pants at night until he was 7 or 8.  When he was 6 he came to this country a political refugee with his family.  He started wetting his pants so his mom took him to a psychologist, he explained it was related to the whole trauma of fleeing his country.  If he was staying dry and now is not I would talk to the doctor, maybe he still has feeling he needs to talk about with the divorce, new partners, new siblings. I would use med as a last resort.  Good Luck I know it's hard I had to potty train twins.

jimrich's picture


My chronic bed wetting was all due to terrifying stress and fear in our home put there by our unhappy parents. IMO, wetting is usually connected to emotional stress and unhappiness as is sibling bickering and fighting. I had some terrible times with my siblings all because we were under stress, anger, fear, sorrow, etc. It was the tragic result of very unhappy, angry parents so we were not taught to be good to each other and get along. Sounds like your kids are stressed out like we were.
Good luck figuring out how to un-stress your kids.