Bre, there are just some people who for whatever reason cannot be made to be happy. To take advice already given and begin to jump through the many hoops your sister holds for you would only make you unhappy. It would also cause her to set the bar higher and expect more from you; she will never be happy. You are an adult; you are capable of making your own decisions and living with them. I would have serious issues with my sister calling my children as a way to gather information. This is very manipulative and places your children in the middle of her unending feud with you. As for the gifts, take them back, or donate them to a charity in her name. It’s time to stop any and all dialogue with her until she can learn to respect you as an adult and a mother. When I say respect, I do not mean that she has to like your decisions, but she must respect them and stop trying to make you conform to her way of living, which does not seem to have brought her too much happiness. There are in many families what are considered “toxic” family members. Deal with the person for how they act, and how they treat you, not who they are and what place they hold in the family. As for the quoting you bible verse, I would instruct her not to worry about the speck in your eye when she has a plank in hers. Good luck.

I agree w/ sngldad. You shldn't have to change just to make your sister happy. Be yourself, and live your life as you see fit. My husband and I were raised Catholic, but neither of us go to church regularly. That doesn't make us bad people. If your sister wants to judge you for whatever reason, pay her no mind. Obviously she's not happy w/ her own life, and she's in turn taking her frustrations out on you.
If your sister truly cares about having a relationship w/ you, she will accept you for who you are, not who she wants you to be. To turn you away on Christmas Day is so wrong. If anyone's being selfish it's her, not you.
Let your sister come to you if she wants you in her life. You can't force her to change her ways if she doesn't want to. Good luck. I hope things work out for you both in the long run.

Bre, hate is prevalent and most of the time it is because the person sees what they should be dealing within themselves but refuse to recognize it. I use to be church going fanatic and I found out that religion teaches people to be too judgmental of others and not enough loving of others. MessiYah Yahshua ans His disciples/apostles were murdered because the religious folk thought they had the right to stop them from teaching others what true love is not (Book of Acts). True love is not inviting people over and then putting them down because they are late. Did she show concern about why you were late and if everything was ok rather than thinking only about what she wanted? Bre, I myself had to separate from family members, and not because I don't love them or because they don't live like I live. I've separated myself from them because we just cannot communicate on a level of civility. We are not going in the same direction and how can two walk together except they be agreed? for instance: I am seeking Truth and religion does not allow the practice of Truth because it promotes things that are not Truth (not your truth or my truth but the Commands and Ways of Almighty Yahweh (Ps 119:142, 151). I don't participate in these worldly holidays which are only about economics. I celebrate the commanded Scriptural days. I live by the Holy Scriptures inspired writings of the Lae and the Prophets of old chosen by Yahweh. Most of my family live by their own or another man's doctrine. Therefore we are not traveling the same road. When we do communicate, its not special because their thoughts and actions are not like I am now but as I use to be and I am not trying to relive that past life; so what do we have in common except the bloodline and sometimes that's just not enough. I pray that you will receive peace in your endeavour to fine peace in your situation. Yahweh knows I've found peace in mine. HalleluYah? Be Blessed.