I need advice. My Husband & I have been married for 1-1/2 years. We are very happy and content with our lives. We do not have any children. My Husband's brother and sister-in-law have been married for 7 years. They are 3 or 4 years younger than us. They have 2 children. When I married into the family we would have supper out with them or have them over or we would go to their house. Well, life got kind of busy and we hadn't really spent too much time with them, but we did not avoid them either. So, one day my sis-in-law calls and asks me if I am upset with her. I assured her that nothing was wrong. But, after that I was trying to go out of my way to call her. Well, she wasn't answering my calls or returning them. So, finally I did get a hold of her and she said that everything was fine. Until, one day I check my email and she had sent me the ugliest email!!!! She was upset because of the way that I had handled a situation - that someone else had told her. She was upset at how I had handled some things in my marriage - I didn't tell my husband DETAIL about my past. She felt that she needed to take sides between me & my husband. I personally feel like these things are none of her business. When you are married you are one -she did not need to take sides.
So, as a result of all of this, we have not spent any time with them one on one. I have had to see her at my in-laws and I do not even want to see her. I feel like I can not have the relationship with my mother and father-in-law that I want when my sis and brother-in-law are there. And my sis-in-law keeps saying "my kids really miss you" or "I do not have your new phone number". Frankly, I do not care. I don't want her to call me and I do not need to have a relationship with my neice and nephew. I will have my own kids and they won't go out of their way to have a relationship with my kids. HELP!!! Do I need to try to keep my in-laws happy and just keep acting like we are one big happy family or can I just visit with my in-laws when they are not around???