trying to decide on retention
I've read tons on whether or not to hold a child back in school but I still wonder about what the right decision is for us. My son is recommended for retention because of poor reading skills. He just finished first grade, is an early-March baby, and is possibly ADHD.
In Kindergarten, he had a first year teacher who had a very difficult class (one would steal things or tear things up, one child threw fits and ran out of the classroom) but also struggled with classroom management. (The school acknowledged all of this.)
Many of the same kids were in his first grade class with a veteran teacher who admitted that controlling these children was difficult. This teacher has had personal issues and was placed on administrative leave for over a month during the year for an incident with a child (details unknown but supposedly grabbing the child). I was also receiving letters from the school saying my son could be a candidate for the gifted and talented program based on test scores. In March, the school decided he should be pulled out for reading assistance. The literacy coach said he improved but indicated tendencies similar to his dyslexic older brother (who is also ADHD and has Asperger's Syndrome).
We have him in summer programs and he is improving but is not where he should have been at the end of the year. If he is truly as intelligent as his teachers have told me and he is held back, I'm concerned he will be bored since other subjects are not a problem. I agree he has poor reading skills but given the aforementioned circumstances, is retention the right decision? What questions should I ask and whom because I don't feel the school thinks they failed him?