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Cubbie

Ostracized...in Kindergarten but great school education wise..please help!

We go to a great school when it comes to teachers and activities. We have a lot around us activity wise. Our problem is being ostracized and the moms and kids picking on my family. We don't want to be part of a click and it has been nothing but a nightmare. At 6 years old I have learned that parents actual adults can be mean to a child. I have ran into parents that are nice but I am afraid that they are warned to stay away from us even if they don't know us. Mommy directed socialization rather then letting their children do it. Is this enough of a reason to change schools? I have had a mom threaten to hit me, actually bullied me, and is popular in the school. The school system has a reputation for great education but kids tend to grow up to be bullies...I have talked to parents up to 2 hours away from here and the reputation still stands. The kids seem so sweet except for one core group that is mean to my daughter. What do other parents think? Please help..advice...



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mayamay

Get involved, volunteer some time in the classroom. Make your decision based on your own experience, not on a fear that is based on hearsay.

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Cubbie

Thanks for posting...I do volunteer in the classroom and do things at the school. I wish I had never gone to the co-op for preschool and just walked in without knowing any of the parents at all. Unfortunately I don't get a good feeling going in there. My daughter tells me she doesn't play with any of the other kids. I don't know why she says that to me when the teacher will tell me yes she does. I don't play the game. She is suppose to be directing her own friendships and not have mommy directed friendships. She got hit by a woman I would never choose as a friend...don't like this woman but she does alot for the school...I am not happy here at all...lots of clicks...

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mayamay

You have three choices. Stay and be miserable, leave, or be an agent for change. If it is that cliquish, then there are other families that also feel left out. You could take the initiative to build relationships among all the families. At 6 years old, she should have a mommy who arranges and supports play dates.

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Cubbie

Tried to make playdates and people said, "no" except one little girls mom and she played with her once. Then their phone got disconnected and we never heard from them again. My daughter said she doesn't and hasn't liked the little girls that she played with in preschool that was without any prompting from me that is now the clique. As far as I can see there are no families that are not in the clique. I asked the principal to put our classroom away from this other classroom and all he does is put us next door. The other moms don't like me. My personality doesn't seem to get along in this type of environment. I have tried to be nice and do stuff for the room teacher etc..hopefully to make the kids and everyone else happy but I still fear going back this year and I am afraid that this environment doesn't foster growth but fear and bullying...

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Cubbie

I have talked to parents who live up to 2 hours away and they know the school systems reputation for raising a bully child. It is disturbing to me but I am not happy with this at all. I call to ask a question and get curt answers or they answer like I am a space alien. I am so depressed that I can't sleep and eating is hard..