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MY DAUGHTER HATES MATH

 MY DAUGHTER IS 11 YEARS OLD SHE'S IN THE 6 GRADE SHE'S BEEN HAVING PROBLEMS WITH MATH SEE THE PROBLEM IS THAT SHE'S NOT INTERESTED IN THE SUBJECT SO SHE PUTS ANYTHING DOWN ON HER PAPER I ASK THE SCHOOL TO KEEP HER BACK AN LET HER REPEAT THE 6 GRADE BUT SHE GET A'S AND B'S IN THE OTHER SUBJECTS I HAVE HELP HER I EVEN HAD HER IN AFTERSCHOOL PROGRAMS AN SHE DOESN'T HAVE IT SO WHAT SHOULD I DO?



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Hi,
Has your daughter always struggled in math? It's common for kids to have their strengths and weaknesses. I, for one, am not a math person, but I did really well in english. Have you tried talking to your daughter's teacher? If your child is just beginning to have trouble this year, maybe she just needs a little extra help. It could be the teacher's technique, it could be the type of math.... I had a great teacher for algebra, and I did very well in that class, considering math is not my strong area. When it came to geometry, however, that was a whole different story. You should look into a private tutor that can work one-on-one w/ your daughter. If that doesn't help, maybe have her tested to see if there's more of a problem. Also, speak to your daughter and get her feedback. Maybe something's going on in the class, or maybe your daughter doesn't want to do the work b/c it's hard for her. These are all things you have to rule out. Also, since your daughter is doing great in all her other subjects, can't the school just hold her back in math, instead of having her repeat 6th grade again? This way she'll still be w/ her friends and able to move on in all the other areas she's doing well in.

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butterfly14

HEY MY LITTLE GIRL TIFFANY IS IN GRADE 6 SHE IS 12 YEARS OLD. AND HAS A VERY HARD TIME IN MATH MAYBE BECAUSE HER TEACHER IS HER FIRST MALE TEACHER AND HE IS SO RUDE HE CALL'S THE STUDENTS STUPID LUNK HEADS AND EVERY THING!! MY DAUGHTER IS SCARED TO EVEN GO TO FRIGGING SCHOOL I'VE TRIED TO TALK TO THE SCHOOL OFFICE ABOUT HIM TO GET HER A TOUTOR BUT THE TOUTER ONLY HELPED 1 TIME!!! AND WHEN TIFFANY ASKED FOR HIM TO EXPLAIN THE MATH MORE CLEARLY TO HER HE MAKES IT SO CONFUSEING AND YELLS AT HER PLEASE WHAT SHOULD I DO ???

P.S. HER ACHIEVEMENT TEST IS THIS WEEK!!!!!!

THANX

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To Butterfly1,
What a horrible experience your daughter is going through. I'm sorry you have to deal w/ such a problem! What kind of teacher wld call his students "stupid lunk heads"? If I were you, I wld march straight to the principal's office and demand that something be done about this teacher and his behavior. Obviously it's unacceptable. How are the kids expected to learn in that kind of environment? I wld also talk to the other parents in the class, and see if the other kids are having similar problems w/ this teacher. I don't know if this guy is tenored or not, but regardless, something has to be done to stop him from doing such a thing. You mentioned that your daughter's achievement test is this wk. You need to jump on this right away. I don't know how the school expects your child, or any of the other students in this class, to perform to the best of their ability on their tests. Definitely talk to the other parents, and discuss this further w/ your daughter. Get all the details you can before you see the principal. Maybe even go as a group. That may be more effective. This teacher may have a history of problems. Just don't delay this any further. Good luck, and remember: Don't make this your daughter's problem. This is the school's problem. Your child doesn't need a tutor. She needs a new teacher!

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butterfly14

TO TELL YOU THE COMPLETE HONEST TRUTH I DONT NO WHAT TEACHER WOULD CALL ONE OF THEIR STUDENTS STUPID!MY LITTLE GIRL IS SO SCARED FOR HER MATH ACHIEVEMENT TEST TOMMORROW SHE ACTUALLY STARTED CRYING!! IT MAKES ME FEEL SO BAD SHE HAS GONE TO SEE A TUTOR AND KNOWS THE STUFF A GRADE 6 SHOULD NO BUT WHEN TESTS COME SHE JUST GETS SCARED AND FORGETS EVERY THING.. BUT HE MAKES THEM DO STUFF ALSO LIKE 85739 DIVIDED BY 78540 WHAT IS IT AND WUT IS THE LOWEST MULTIPLE LIKE C'MON!!! AND HE ALWAYS SAYS TO HER U BETTER GET THIS TRUST ME U NEED IT I MARK UR REPORT CARD I'D NO... WELL ILL DEFINATLY TAKE YOUR ADVICE BUT DO U GOT ANY ADVICE FOR MY DAUGHTER??
thanx so much butterfly14 or Connie

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It sounds like your daughter is feeling pressured, and that's why she's freezing up on tests. When I was in 3rd grade, I had this old-school nun in catholic school that made the class recite the times tables at random in front of the principal. Talk about pressure! And I swear it was all about this teacher wanting to look good in the eyes of the principal. I remember everyone in my class feeling scared. This one girl came in w/ a high fever b/c she was afraid if she missed the class, she wld get in trouble. That was then, this is now. This stuff is not acceptable in today's schools, and if this teacher keeps it up, he's going to be w/out a job. Is there any way you can get the test postponed for your daughter? If you can prove that what your daughter has been telling you is true, the school needs to do something. What if your daughter was absent the day of the test. Wld she have the opportunity to make it up? By all means, I'm not saying you shld run away from this, but time is of an essence here, and you don't want your daughter to take the test under these conditions. It's not fair. I wld discuss these concerns as well w/ the principal. If it comes down to it, and you don't get what you want, threaten to get a lawyer. The last thing schools want is a lawsuit. You have a strong case, and if you can prove that this teacher is unfit, you shouldn't have a problem. I'd also continue w/ a private tutor for now, until this situation gets itself worked out. Reassure your daughter that none of this is her fault. Is there a councelor at school she can talk to about this? Maybe that will help somewhat as well. Good luck!

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ya but the thing is he can also be really nice.. but Tiffany is so nervouse of his mood swings she actually picks out reasons for his unacceptable behavior!! she came home from skool today and was so upset cuz she new/thought she did really bad on her math achievement test!! we can not prospone it (sorry if i spelled that wrong hey im a single mom) well thanx for the help

plz write me back

c ya

butterfly14

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Butterfly,
Did you talk to the principal yet? What about the other parents? Who cares if your daughter's teacher is nice sometimes. That's no excuse for him to be mean at other times. I wld talk to a lawyer. If money is an issue, maybe you can find an advocate to help you. Advocates are not lawyers, but they know the law, and they're a lot cheaper to hire. Some even offer free services if you qualify. Look up advocacy groups in your area. Many deal w/ special education, but I'm sure you can find someone that handles general school issues. As for the test, I don't know how much it will affect your daughter. I wish the school wld've postponed it. I don't know. Does anyone else have any thoughts on this?

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I DONT THINK SO ONLY LIKE 3 OTHER KIDS ARE NOT VERY UHH. YA U NO WHAT I MEEN. BUT THE OTHER ONES ARE THE BRIGHTEST CRAYON IN THE BOX LIKE THEY ALL HAVE A 80-90 CORE AVERAGE!!ANF TIFFANY ONLY HAS A 67..BUT I THINK I MAY TAKE YOUR ADIVE.. ALL OF THE OTHEF GR.6 ERS R REALLY SMART ECCEPT 3 BUT THE 3 ARE GROWING UP WITH DRUGGIES AS PARENTS...... BUT THANKS FOR YOUR HELP CAN U WRITE SOME INFO TO GIVE TO MY DAUGHTER FOR THE TESTS!!

THANK YOU
BYE
BUTTERFLY

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Dear Tiffany,
It sounds like you're having a tough time w/ your math teacher. Your mom mentioned that he's been mean to you and your classmates and that you were scared to take your test. Who wouldn't be? Whatever you do, don't blame yourself for any of this. It is totally unprofessional and flat out wrong for a teacher to treat his students in such a manner. If your teacher ever says or does anything to make you feel uncomfortable, you should excuse yourself from the class and go straight to the principal or guidance councelor's office. Have you spoken to any of your friends about this teacher? What do they think of him? As for your test, I'm sure you did the best you could under the circumstances. Now move forward, and work hard to get through the class, even if you have a tutor help you. Math was never my best subject, but I'll tell you that a good teacher makes all the difference. Think of it this way. The school yr's almost over. Do what you can to pass the class. Even if you don't get an A or a B, that's ok. Continue to work hard in your other classes. You'll get a fresh start next yr. Good luck, and don't worry! You'll get through this. 8-)

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YA ill just half to try my best.. my fellow classmates know he can be a jerk but technicly all of them are really smart so they have no problems.. Mr.B my teacher just scares me sumtimes he has had kid trouble in his recent school he has pushed a kid up against a locker and everything

thanx
Tiffany