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lisajj

my 11 year old hates all sports at school

can any one give my any advice please?my 11 year old has just started secondary school,he has to do rugby and football and he hates them,he also hates the rain especially and said they shouldnt do sports in the rain.he has asked me to write letters to say he cant do it and gets upset when ive expained he must try and participate.He has severe eczema which gets him down and gets embarrased when he has to get changed.he cant do swimming as it is because of how bad his skin is and the chorine affects him.i really dont know what to do,my other son who is 12 is totally the opposite and loves all sports.can anyone help please?



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karentheawkward

As a 14 year old with pretty bad eczema, I will say: Don't force your son.

I have a lot of friends, both girls and guys, who don't do any sports. My best friend, a guy, is somewhat of a computer geek and is in my Web Design class--- he's very talented.

I didn't do any sports in Middle School, but as a Freshman in High School I joined the Speech Team (my event is Extemporaneous Speaking aka. 'Extemp') and even if it seems "nerdy", it is just as demanding as any other sport and looks great on your resume.

Seriously, DON'T FORCE YOUR SON. Ask him is he's interested in something else. Does he enjoy reading? Writing? Music? At least at my school, there are a lot of extracurricular, non-physical activities including: Speech Team (*tooting my own horn?*), Mock Trial (Also great), Improv, and we Freshmen have the "Frosh Play". We also have two school newspapers as well as a few magazines. There are also clubs, like Jewish Student Union, Asian Student Organization, Muslim Student Association (at my school they collaborated with Buddhists and Hindus to create Eastern Interfaith Council as well), Liberal Student Union, Conservative Student Union, Anime Club, etc.

There are a lot of options other than sports. If your son doesn't like sports, just try to accept it.

Good luck! :)

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lisajj

thankyou for your reply.only thing is he HAS to do sports at school,he has to do rugby and he has to do football,all the other lads have to do it as part of p.e.he did join the drama club at primary scool which he loved!i have parents evening next week il have to speak to the teacher about it.i dont want him being singled out for being the only lad that doesnt want to do sports.got to speak to them about him being bullied for his eczema.kids are so cruel keep saying they will catch it and calling him scabby.gets me upset and the poor child has to put up with it.

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tamz

Some kids don't like sports, there is nothing wrong with that. Of course some kids don't like math either but the school requires them to do it.

If I had your dillema I would just expect my son to do the minimum sports he has to in order to get by in school.

However, football is quite a heafty sport; some would say it's borderline violent. I can see running or some kind of ball sport, but I would never want to be forced to play football; poor kid!!!

Your 11 year old is not the same as your 12 year old and that's okay. If he's not into sports then so be it.

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acitez

I think she means soccer, not American football,

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tamz

oops... Blushing...

Well, I hope you find a perfect solution to set your boy free from his suffering. Some kids just are not athletes.

God bless!!!

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acitez

My son has a friend who did play American football in some kind of peewee league when he was about 12. He was the shortest and slightest of the group, I worried. But he LOVED it.

Just help your son pass the dumb class, and talk to his teacher about helping him maintain a good attitude about physical activity. I think it is nuts when people think that activity and sports are the same thing. Hiking or walking, dancing, anything to get the heart pumping, is a good thing.

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concerned mom

I think the whole thing is ridiculous. No child shld be expected to play sports if they can't or don't want to. What if your son was crippled? Wld he still be forced to play? Sports shld be for recreation purposes only. Yes there's gym class, but the games we played weren't anything like you're describing. Can't your son be excused for medical reasons and maybe given an opportunity to fulfill his requirement in another area. What is this doing for his self-esteem?
The only thing I can suggest, if your son must do this, is to help build up his confidence at home. Expose him to sports by playing w/ him, or having him play w/ a few close friends. This may help your son feel more comfortable w/ the whole idea, and it will make the whole process that much easier for him. Good luck!