I am trying to make a decision: My son is 5 and will turn 6 in August. He went to kindergarten last year and had a difficult time. With the new curriculum, the teacher is teaching many new concepts that were not taught in kindgarten years ago, so it is a lot tougher. He had a difficult time with paying attention which led me to have him tested outside of school. They believe he is an "at risk" student with ADHD. He is now on meds and is doing wonderful! Many of the "things" that I thought were maturity issues, are now gone and he is now ready to learn. So, do I give him "the gift of time" in kindgarten again or move him on and hope that he can catch up with his peers? I am not finding any positive research in favor of retention, buy I see positive situations in our community from other students who did have 2 years in kindergarten. I have a lot of respect and confidence that his teacher will guide him through the additional year and help him emotionally, but still....

Ask if you can get an evaluation for first grade readiness. Around here it is fairly common for moms to hold off sending sons to kindergarten until they are six. That way they aren't "retained" in school, they just have a later start.

give him the gift of time ,my daughter has ADD and she kept going on we made the hard choice to keep her back in 3rd and until then she kept falling more behind,she is now doing better she isnt the top of the class but she isnt the lowest either ,this year she is going to be in a inclusion class with low,med ,high students i feel like this will help also .but if your child is going to be staying back do it now dont wait it was hard for her the first couple of weeks lots of tears i feel like it would have been better if we had done this in grade k ,we were told she will catch up she didnt grade k is where they get the basics needed to learn to read she went back in a class for about hour a day to learn the basics when she was in first ,every year she kept falling more behind because she was still trying to get a hold on what she had learned the year before ,we did all the tutor stuff every summer also but with her she needed that extra year to catch up she loves school now and has made a lot of growth this past year ,she will be going to fourth this year after doing 3rd 2 times we are ready ,just i would like to make a sug to you if you do hold them back change teachers and rooms we did not and both she and i were so tired of that classroom by the end came .but honest that is the only thing i would change about my choice ,like i said she has really improved since the past years and her social skills seemed to be more like the kids she is with now instead of the kids she used to be with

I'm back with an update: We made the decision to give our little guy a growth year. It seems to have eliminated some pressure from us both. I don't feel the need to push him and he doesn't feel the pressure of not knowing the basics. We are sticking with same teacher, although I do understand the benefits of switching. This teacher goes beyond extordinary. She came to our house to offer the "gift of time". She explained it beautifully to him in his terms. I think this is going to work out well. I do agree that we might get tired of her class and be ready to move on, but she is such an awesome teacher, I would not have made this decision otherwise. Now, I am moving forward with "arming" him with suggestions for comments from other students. I know it will break my heart and be difficult for a while, but in the end this small hurdle with be best. So, if anyone has any great ideas for my "armor", let me know. (My comment to my family in friends will be that we didn't start his college fund early enough and we need another year to catch up!)
Thanks!

His new classmates will not be aware that he was in kindergarten last year, his old classmates will just be curious, his family may phrase it wrong, but they are just interested in his well-being. I'd be honest with close family. At some point, your siblings may face the same struggle with one of their children.

I agree, be honest w/ people, but don't volunteer too much info. Only talk to those you feel you can trust. Encourage your son to be proud of who he is and how far he has come. Teach him to ignore those people who are insincere, and encourage him to interact w/ those who are kind-hearted. At this age, kids are quite tolerant. I find it's the adults who sometimes never grow up. Good luck.