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24nascar

I should hold my son back in school?

My son is 7 (sept bday) and is in the 1st grade and is having a hard time in every subject. He is getting tutoring from his teacher and he will be getting tested for a learning disability. His teacher said that they might not hold him back because of his age. I held him back in preschool because he wasn't for kindergarden. He started K at the age of 6. If he is held back he will 8 years old and in the first grade. Opinions please!! Thank you



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mayamay

Be sure he is evaluated to determine what services he is eligible for. I kept my son back one year. He still did not do well academically, but I am glad I did not hold him back another year. Socially, he is a little bit more mature than the others in his class. I think keeping him back another year would have really frustrated him because his classmates would just be too young for him to enjoy them.

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24nascar

Thank you for your comment. He will be older then the other 1st graders and I know that he would be upset if he had to repeat. I asked about summer school and in my city all of the schools got rid of it because of the budget problems. Summer school would be great for him. The teacher might tutor him or she can provide a tutor for him. I really hate to see him repeat 1st grade.

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mayamay

Do lots of large motor stuff--Maybe a karate class. Sometimes you can accelerate brain development with that.

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concerned mom

24nascar, (Jeff Gordon fan?) Me too. 8-)
My son is 6 and in 1st grade. I too wanted to hold him back b/c of his age and the academic difficulties he has. He is already classified, and I was told due to the No Child Left Behind Act he cldn't be held back. I didn't push the issue b/c my son receives special services, and also b/c his dr said holding him back wldn't make much of a difference for him academically. I was thinking more for the social aspect, though.
Since you're son is 7 already, I wld keep him at his current grade level. Get him tested, and if need be, get him the services he needs. This will help. I wldn't worry too much about your son's age b/c he's one of the older kids in his class already, correct? If though you feel this is a maturity issue and that your son needs more time, you shld request to hold him back before you get him classified (if that's the case). This way, you won't have to go through all that red tape. In my opinion, though, I wld keep your son where he is and request for both academic and social services. Our school provides my son w/ social classes and certain behavior modification therapies that teach him how to act appropriately. Also, to the poster that suggested large motor exercises, I think that's a good option as well. My son not only receives PT, but we also have him in various sports which help him to better focus and also get out his energy. Look into the services your school provides, and understand your rights. Through this process I've learned a lot. You'd be surprised what your child may be entitled to. Good luck, and keep pushing. I wish you and your son all the best.

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way2busymom

Do some research on retention. You might be surprised to find that it's not all that successful statistically.

Here is one good article for you.

http://www.greatschools.org/LD/school-learning/repeating-a-grade.gs?cont...

Wait for that testing to come back for learning disabilities. By identifying his learning disabilities, you can get him the specific help he needs without holding him back to be 2 years behind his agemates.