I do not knwo what to do. My husband and I are completely confused. My 6 yrd old who is in second grade does not seem to be behaving well at school. He is a smart kid. The teacher complains saying that he tries to act silly and talks loudly in the class, does not sit safely in his chair. Looks like he gets reminders in the class. He finishes his work on time, in his math Assesment he scored a 100%. The teacher says he is academically sound so no problem there. The teacher also says that he is not the one who disturbs the class the most, he is in Average in getting reminders. We talked to him about the three issues that the teacher had complained about.
1.) taking softly in the class, His voice is really thin/shrill and sometimes carries off even though he is talking softly, but i can understand the teachers point of view,how can I help my child be self aware of his own voice
2.) Acting silly...I donot know what to do, regarding sitting properly in the chair when I asked my son about it he told me that he had complained to the teacher too that the chair is not comfortable for him ( it is bucket seat and to add he is short) and he refuses to take a cushion to the class as he feels embarrased. the teacher complains that he sits with his knees in the desk.
3.)Chatting in the class, we talked to him abotu this and the teacher also said that it is not only his fault but the kids sitting next to him.The teacher says that he has no issues with socializing but he just needs to get himslef together, during the conversation the teacher also mentioned that he is the youngest in the class, and also since it just september, but she wants to correct any bad behaviors before they become bad habits.
But when ever i ask my son if he had gotten any reminders he just says a coupel and yesterday he said the same lie and teacher kind of emailed me saying that he had rough day.
My major question is how can I help my child to trust me that I will try to help him with what ever the issue is as long as he tells me eveyr thing. I think he is scared that we will spank him or etc... How can i help with the above issues with out him feeling embarrrased and also with out hurting hsi self esteem, how can I trust him when he is telling me a lie.
any help/suggestions is appreciated.