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Discussion Title: droping off at school troubles
Created by: kammygirl
Created on: Tue, 09/08/2009 - 8:39pm.

Hi everyone,
I struggled as to were to post this under, possibly adoption.
My first grader who is 6 is going to school for the first time alone. I taught her in a private school for kindergarten, so she is use to having me. She is having terrible time being dropped off at school. I don't know if its abandonment issues mixed in with regular ol first time being at school anxiety. She was 16 months when we adopted her from China. I know she knows I'm coming back, but i wonder if deep down she is just stressed about the issue. Any advise? I have talked to her teacher, who seems to be wonderful, and eager to help. But we are at week 2, i know, only week 2, but its bad. she clings to me like a koala bear clings to her mama.

Author: Tay
Replied: 9/9/2009 1:25pm.

Well as you said you know you have taught her and been round you since you have adopted her and you know she's kinda hesitant of how the children will treat her in school and stuff but talk to her and let her get use to being without you and maybe as time goes on she will grow out of it. But sitt down with her and talk to her and ask her why she's afraid for you to leave her at school. But you know automatically you know as a parent of a young child she will be afraid to leave you.....

Valente

Author: aplus
Replied: 9/9/2009 7:22pm.

Although my daughter is not adopted, I experienced a similar response to school. A friend told me that it would take 6 weeks for her to adjust. It took exactly 6 weeks. We'd talk about going to school the next day each evening as we prepared for the next; there were no issues that she could point out causing problems; she even played school in her room after the day was over. The teacher, a friend of mine, said that she did not cry once I was out of sight and never had a tearful moment in the classroom. Primarily, it was getting into the routine and her coming to expect that this is what we'll do from now on. After that, she skipped in excited to be there.