daughter's jealousy ruining friendships
My nine, almost 10 year old daughter is jealous of everything- it's so sad. She is beautiful and smart and has a nice family but has no self esteem or confidence. She is a little pudgy around the belly and that makes her feel really bad. Also, tho she has a good relationship with her step dad, she doesn't see much of her real dad- the odd email is about all these days. I have tried everything and I am so frustrated! She gets jealous and then mean. We live in a small place with only 35 kids in the school and for the most part, all the girls get along but her. She is so desperate for a best friend but pushes them away with her jealousy. I don't know what to do- I talk to her about it every day but short of going to school with her I don't know how to help. I got my hair cut and she said she hated it and that it looked terrible and then later said sorry it was just that she loved it and wished her hair looked liked that. If her friends play with someone else then she takes that to mean that they hate her and then she goes on the defensive. Any suggestions????