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WSR1629

BULLYING

MY SON HAS JUST STARTED KINDERGARTEN. EVERYDAY HE COMES HOME AND SAYS SOMEONE IS PICKING ON HIM AT RECESS. I ASK HIM WHAT HE DOES AND HE TELLS ME HE TELLS THE TEACHERS THAT ARE OUTSIDE. I HAVE TALK TO HIS TEACHER AND SHE IS AWARE. HE JUST INFORMED ME AGAIN THAT THE SAME KID IS PICKING ON HIM AND WHEN HE GOES TO TELL THE TEAHER THE KIDS QUITS. MY SON NOW SEE THE KID AND WILL RUN.I DON'T WANT HIM TO BE BULLIED AT SCHOOL. I ALSO WOULD LIKE HIM TO STICK UP FOR HIIMSELF BUT DON'T WANT HIM TO GET INTO TROUBLE. WHAT DO I DO?



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hl6308
Hi I know this is a very hard issue to deal with and I know because I was there with my son.He is 6 and was having serious problems with this same kid last year he wouldn't leave my son alone he would come home everyday with something new the kid did to him.I let the principal know personally and the problem didn't stop.This kid was a problem child.I wasn't going to let my kid feel bad about going to school so his dad and I finally said enough is enough and told our son you fight back Thats the only way he will leave you alone.I believe schools only handle problems to a certain extent and don't catch everything.So unless kids can stick up for themselves the problem will continue.My son is a very laid back well mannered kid but that doesn't mean he deserves to be picked on.So he went to school one day and the kid grabbed him from behind and squeezed him so tight he couldn't breath so his only type of defense was to bite the kid and that he did.I don't believe in biting someone but he had enough and couldn't breath .I got a call and my son was hysterical I went to the school and had a field day with the principal because they were aware of the problem and didn't fix it before it came to this point.She understood my outlook on the situation but my son still had to be the one to go home for the day which I wasn't happy about.I will tell you my son hasn't had one problem with this kid since.Im not trying to say its right for fighting or anything but I do think explaining the right and wrong to your son about it would help him.If the kid keeps bullying him he should stick up for himself and let the kid know he's not gonna take it.My son never gets in trouble at school but I would never for one second be mad at him if I ever got another call for him defending himself because i know my son and there would be a good reason.Kids these days are out of control.Well I hope some of this info helped. I know how you feel it was breaking my heart because you can't always be there and thats your job as a parent to keep your kids safe.I would also keep on the school about it if it continues.Good luck and I wish you the best.

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Janesia

MAYBE I TAKE THIS VIEW TOO BECAUSE IM A KID BUT I SAY TEACH HIM HOW TO FIGHT. WELL MAYBE NOT FIGHT BUT TEACH HIM HOW TO PUNK. FOR THOSE PARENTS WHO HAVE NO CLUE WHAT THAT MEANS TEACH HIM HOW TO SAY THE KINDERGARTEN EQUIVALENT OF "HEY PUNK, YOUR TORQUIN ON MY TERRIOTORY AND IT AINT COOL. THIS CITY WILL MAKE YOU AND BREAK YOU BUT MY CREW IS MEANT TO LAST. SO HANG ON OR SHOVE OFF 'CAUSE I'LL DOWN YOU IF YOU KEEP IT UP." YOU KNOW SOME THING ALONG THOSE LINES BUT REMEMBER WHAT I ALWAYS SAY: CONFIDENCE IS KEY

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lunchbox

There are so many issues now a days on the bully problems in our schools and i am completely on your side.My 6 year old is facing bully problems and really bad sometimes.Classmate bully.When i read your issues and how your child delt with them i have an A on report for your child.I am facing charges because i could not stand no more.I was watching my child play when her bully attcked her and as a parent i went to separate them,quickly.No one was hurt in the process,but when school officials did not help i felt it was my job as a parent to defend my own child.I am discusted in how our young children are being brought up in our schools today.Todays society does not protect our children from school bullies.It should be law that school bullies be suspended immediately.I DONT THINK THAT ANY PARENT SHOULD HAVE TO BURRY THIER CHILDREN BECAUSE OF BULLIES IN SCHOOLS TODAY!Talking to children is not helping because children know theres no hefty penalties,they strive on it.I was told that i was a mean,cruel parent because i want the strap be brought back in schools.

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momskids1

My son went through the same problems with bullying. It started in 1st grade all the way throu middle school years. You need to get involved in this and nip it in the butt before it goes to far. Contact the teacher and if it doesnt seem to be helping go directly to the principal. Bullying should not be tolerated at ANY AGE. My son had a problem with one kid and I just let it go to just normal behavior but as he got older it was more dificult to deal with. Dont ignore this problem if the school doesnt deal with it take it to the school board, which is what we did. Good Luck and tell your son to keep his head high and remind him its not his fault this kid is picking on him.

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gchirino

My son had the same thing happened to him. The bully kept on bugging my son until I made myself known to the principal, noon aides, and other teachers. Make you presence known at your school. Talk to the other mothers on campus. Turns out, this bully already had a reputation of being a bad kid. So, reporting the bullying gives this kid a record with his teacher and principal. Also, a lot of prayers. Good luck!

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Protective Mom

My son is in Kindergaten and is experiencing the same problems. He attends a daycare close to his school and interacts with his tormentor both at school and at daycare. The final straw for me was when the bully threatened to kick my son in the face. Once school was out, the bully jumped on him. When I asked why he didn't tell anyone, he said because the other boy wouldn't let him play with his Game Boy if he told. (I won't let my son have a Game Boy as I believe it is more important to play and exercise than play video games at 5 years old.)

I spoke with the daycare director and the teacher and advised that I have instructed my son to defend himself. My husband and I have taught him how to throw (and land) a punch. The next day when the bully tackled him, my son fought back and the other boy ended up with scrapes on his arms from being tackled back. Of course he came to me and reported that my son had hurt him. I must admit, my sympathy was non-existent.

Another factor here is school policy. My son did not want to fight back because he was afraid of getting in trouble. My response to him was that if he is defending himself not to worry. I will deal with the school. It seems to be working for us.

The unfortunate thing here is that I recently became aware of other children being pulled from the daycare because of the bullying. As parents, we need to instill values in our children and teach them what is morally acceptable behaviour. Some parents do and some don't. Until the world is perfect, I guess we will continue to deal with the bullies.

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concerned mom

Good for you, protective! I worry about my sons all the time and only hope I don't have to be faced w/ a similar predicament. It's unfortunate that there are bullies out there, and it's especially surprising at such a young age, but as parents, we have to protect our children the best way we know how. Keep up the good work!