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madzmom

Bad Start to 2nd Grade

I am having a tough time with my 2nd grader (7 years old) this year. Ever since right before school started, her behavior has changed and she is outright lying about things. (Let's face it, all kids bend the truth). Her father & I, although divorced, are both there for her and there have been no traumatic events lately. Last year she was mostly A's, a couple of B's & now I feel like she is practically failing 2nd grade! I'm not thrilled with the teacher's homework, I feel like the directions are sometimes very unclear and if I can't figure it out.....what is my child to do? I've talked to him about it when he stated that he explains things very clearly prior to the end of the day and apparently it's my daughter's problem that she can't remember what to do. I work, so she is at daycare about 3 hours before we get home to do homework, should I expect her to remember all this?? For some reason, I don't feel my duaghter is applying herself in school and I'm really starting to wonder about her reading comprehension. She's always been happy about school but this is just totally a different year. Any advice would be helpful & appreciated!! I am at my wits end trying to figure out if it's my duaghter or a bad teacher/child combination.



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akmcmullen

Our son also has not been finishing work at school. (he also goes to after care for 3 hours).
We are having him evaluated for LD in the district as well as from an independent psych./educational evaluator. (There might be several reasons why our kids don't comprehend, i.e. an auditory processing disorder or, who knows!)
What we've done in the meantime is ask his teacher to put his "in class" folder in his backpack along with his homework folder. That way, whatever he doesn't complete in class, we can work with him to complete at home. NOT always an easy task, but....
We also went ahead and purchased his reading book (houghton/mifflin)) so that he/we can refer to it to complete questions.
 He DOES have a hard time staying on task (one of the reasons he's being evaluated, besides his lack in comprehension --- WE requested it through the school). Unfortunately, if you wait for the school to do anything, nothing might ever get done and it will be a bit late, if your daughter winds up failing. That's the main problem with public or perhaps any school. With so many kids to take care of, and some at more "risk" than others, so many kids can fall through the cracks.
 Unlike when we were kids (assuming you're as "old" as me!) "special ed" doesn't hold the stigma it once did. More often, if your child requires "special" intervention, like going out of their regular class for speech (our son didn't qualify last year for it -- not "low" enough) the school can work with you in some way. Hopefully!
Of course, in the big picture we know our son will be fine. (just think of all the idiots you might work with every day who make tons of money!) We just want him to do his best, whatever that is and not wind up hating school. Good luck.

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gail Hanson

Whenever there is a sudden behavior change I wonder if a trauma has occurred that you are not aware of.  You might try a therapist trick.  Play dollies with her and while you are pretending with her say something like, "A bad thing happened to my doll.  What do you think it is?"  If she's got something on her mind, she might tell you about it in this non-confrontational setting.  Another thing is that sometimes old traumas have to be addressed in new developmental stages.