40 minutes of homework for Kindergarten?!
My daughter started Kindergarten this year, and although I realize the times have greatly changed since I was in grade school, I am appalled at the teacher requiring 40 minutes of homework EVERY NIGHT! She is one of the younger children and doesn't have the advantage of having any older siblings - just one very distracting 2 year old brother. She knows her letters, their sounds and her numbers. However, she has yet to join the '100 club' (being able to count to 100 by 1's in front of the entire class). Only 3 or 4 out of 20 can't do it yet, but she can count to 100 by 5's. She has all 50 of her sight words down, but is having trouble figuring out how to stretch out words. She doesn't seem to know where to begin. She gets raving reviews from the teacher as far as her attention, listening and behavoiral skills, just says that she is struggling a bit academically. It takes me over an hour to try to get 30 quality minutes of study time in at night - the fidgeting, the day-dreaming, the plain, no holds barred ignoring me. It's so frustrating! She just doesn't seem to have any motivation - I get upset and she asks why it's so important to know this stuff anyway - and when I come up with a quick-witted response, she simply tells me she doesn't care, she's not going to go anymore. I email the teacher who clearly doesn't believe my recount of the issues at home, and she just repeats herself that we need to get 40 minutes in a night. Now she's suggested a 45 minute tutoring session once a week. I'm so heavy hearted and discouraged right now....the poor little kids don't even get a rest time at school - does anyone else feel like they're pushing way too hard? Does anyone have any tips for motivating a kid who just doesn't care? Where have I gone wrong? Do I solve all of her problems for her so she's never had to take responsiblity for herself? And lastly, how do I relinquish this control over to her and quit feeling like I've failed her?
PS The teacher has NEVER mentioned any kind of learning disability...she seems like an intelligent kid - just when it's something she's actually interested in.