Trying to raise a kid with values
I have an almost 12 year-old son. He's very smart (he's in gifted at school), sweet and has goals (he is a singer and plays guitar and wants to do it professionaly someday, after he completes college). Anyway, he had a girlfriend who he really liked that "dumped" him a few months ago for another boy. My son was on his myspace (which I monitor closely) and he checked out the new boyfriends page. There are pictures of the boy giving the finger, posing with a bottle of Jack Daniels and he has left messages on the girls page saying "I'm so stoned, lol." My son was so upset, because he has been raised to be considerate, respectful and to make good choices. On this boys myspace, the girl left comments like "you are SO AMAZING!". I could tell my son was crushed. This is the 3rd time that a girl has dumped him to go out with a "cooler" guy and it is really discourging to my son. How do I convince him that he is great the way he is, and that he doesn't need try to be something that he's not because the girls seem to prefer the "bad" boys. He's still so young right now, but I know that he's only going to get more into girls in the coming years.