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Discussion Title: Teenager Daughter with Boyfriend
Created by: Dawn
Created on: Fri, 05/25/2007 - 11:43am.

My daughter is fifteen years old.  She has had a boyfriend for the last ten months.  I am concerned because all she wants to do is spend time with her boyfriend.  Over the last ten months she hardly spends any time with her girlfriends.  Her girfriends have stopped calling as often and tend not to ask her to do things anymore.  This concerns me.  I constantly remind her that she needs to balance her friends with her boyfriend.  She does cheer at her high school and I'm trying to get her involved in other things for the summer.  Could anybody give me some suggestions on how to deal with this situation?  I feel the more I have pushed her to be with her friends-she does the total opposite.

Author: poop
Replied: 5/25/2007 9:58pm.

Let her do what she wants to do. If she loses some friends that is some consequences she will have to go through.

Author: Host Marti
Replied: 5/25/2007 10:41pm.

Hi Dawn

 

I am with you, it would concern me too if my daughter were focused on her boyfriend to the exclusion of everyone else. 

 

I think you are doing the right thing to talk to her about how she should try to balance friends and her boyfriend.  Does she see you doing things with your girlfriends a lot?  If not, you might want to plan some girl things with a friend and tell your daughter she and one of her friends can come along.  The other thing you can do is make her pick a date night and a friend night.  One weekend night you can go out with your boyfriend but the other weekend night has to be devoted to a girlfriend or at least a group thing.

 

I know, it is hard to deal with teenagers, but at least you are talking, that is one of our strongest weapons at this point in their life!

 

Keep us posted.

 

Marti

 

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Author: nire
Replied: 8/26/2007 12:42am.

i am with you more than you know i too have a teenage daughter 14 who is involved with a boy that is soon to be 18 i am at my wits end she too has lost all interest in her friends she used to have friends over all the time but since she has been with him everything has changed  but its like nothing else matters but him the other night at the ballgame he was there with another girl and they sure didnt act just like friends i seen it with my own eyes and others did too but she says they are just friends him and the other girl i said friends dont hold hands and hang on each other but she still wont let him go we have never let her go on a date with him the only thing she can do with him is sit with him at a ball game and he has came to the races but we feel she is to young for a boy this age right now if she was older it would be different i feel that if i had stopped it in the first place we wouldnt be where we are today he is using her but she is blind to it and of course if i say anything its wrong but i just cant stand to see her done this way and i told her that but i cant get through to her it really worries me she is my life and i dont want her to be hurt but i know thats whats coming so i hope its helps to know your not alone i told one of my friends the other day i just want to go to sleep and wake up when she graduates lol that will come soon enough i know we just have to be there for then when they need us and give them that unconditional love and do alot of praying