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Teen dating

My husband and I disagree on what age our children should start dating. He is stepfather to my 3 girls and biological father to our son. I said that the kids should be allowed to have a boyfriend/girlfriend when they enter high school. We both agreed that junior high is still too young! But he thinks that they should be at the earliest age 16 but he really thinks 17 is an appropriate age! I think that is crazy! I think that Kids need the emotional experiences that come with relationships. I think it will help them become more prepared for future relationships. I had my first boyfriend when I was 6 my mom never put boundaries on the age I could have a boyfriend. I turned out okay! I know that teens are going to do things behind parents backs and just because one kid does something doesn't mean the next kid will make that same mistake! Everyone is wired different! I would love some input! Thanks!



junieg's picture
junieg

I think a lot depends on the individual child and how mature and sensible they are. We all learn from our experiences and need to have them to form opinions.

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SnglDad

She’ll still have boyfriends, it just means that you and your husband will not get to know them and interact with them. While at school, over at a friend’s house for a sleep-over, at a party, or on that camping trip, she will find ways to spend time with a boy if she wants to. Telling her she cannot have a boyfriend will only make her hide him from you. The approach that your husband is taking will remove your ability to meet this young man and gain important information about who she WILL be spending time with.

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mayamay

The emotional experiences that come with dating are pretty intense. This is from the national campaign to prevent teenage and unplanned pregnancy.

5. Discourage early, frequent, and steady dating.
Group activities among young people are fine and often fun, but allowing teens to begin steady, one-on-one dating much before age 16 can lead to trouble. Let your child know about your strong feelings about this throughout childhood - don't wait until your young teen proposes a plan that differs from your preferences in this area; otherwise, he or she will think you just don't like the particular person or invitation.

http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/parents/ten_tips.aspx