Straight From the Mind of a Teenager.
I, personally, have gone through and read many of the topics posted under 'Raising Teens', and looking at the posts made by parents about their teenagers, I'm inclined to speak out about what's been...in the loop...to put it gently.
One of the posts made about their teen and their teen's use of drugs troubled me. The mother had said that she became involved with the PTA, and spoke to her children about the drugs and whatnot, and I applaud her for that.
But her mistake is that she probably didn't talk to her child as a friend one on one.
I find it extremely easy to talk to my father about things, and although I'm a girl of fourteen years, I understand what he's been through to an extent. I treasure when my dad and I go out to Sonic or a Bar & Grille and can just talk about anything. We're big goof balls that get caught up in the stress of everyday life.
But when you have a parent that can relate to you on an emotional level, and help you journey through your teens years, it helps us teens mature and understand the real life struggles much better.
I share with him stories of my school days, and he shares with me his experiences, how he got through them, his mistakes, and how the world is right now.
I, however, am in no way implying that I connect with just my father this way though. I do have a more difficult time talking with my mother, of course, our different beliefs and views to take a toll, I do cherish what moments and hour long talks I have with her where the age and family ties disappear, and we are nothing but good friends.
No, I don't date, and I have trouble at school getting teased for not doing so, but personally I believe that I should wait for the right man that I feel can meet me on a certain level, and that I know isn't dating me 'just for the heck of it'. It's a very hard thing to go through, and though I know parents went through the same thing, I'm being raised in a culture where stick thin is 'in'.
It's repulsive, and I highly encourage you to just talk to you kids on their level in terms they can understand. As for the above and eating disorders, I feel much better after knowing that curves are a great thing to possess. Heaven knows I have many of them.
I would, however, like to hear your opinions, so...reply away, my minions.