Responsibility of 16 year old daughter
I have a 16 year old daughter with responsibility issues. She is at the top of her class in school, class officer, involved in sports and drama club, and active at church. Her Dad and I are having trouble with what her responsibilities should be in the home. Part of me just wants her to be a kid and have. The other part gets so mad when she can not do simple things like pick up her room or while watching her younger sibiling during the summer, pick up a little around the house. I will be ther first to say that I have spoiled my 2 kids with the help of the Dad. Her Dad is constantly on me that if we don't start making her do things that she will not amount to anything in the working world. She just doesn't see things that need done on a daily basis. Her cell phone and computer are always going. She has never broken curfew. When told she could not see a specific boy because of his age, she called him in front of me and told him she could not see or talk to him anymore. She did this without being disrespectful. She is a very kind hearted girl, but lacking on common sence sometimes. She is one of those types that never picks up a book to study, but maintains a straight A average, occasionally getting a B+ (90%), which I have stated to her could be an A is she only would study instead of socialize constantly. She has never given us anything to worry about. Are we being to unreseasonable? Today I finally got mad at my husband and told him to shut her bedroom door if he did not like the way her room looked. (This was done in private. Not in front of her.) Actually she had left to go to church camp for the evening. I know I am rambling, but this is my first time asking for advice on any issues. Please give me some advice!!