Peer to Peer Sexual Abuse
I have a 12 year old girl who got involved through a sport with an older girl. (14) This seemed completely innocent for about 6 months, then she completely changed. Sullen, on the computer and texting constantly. While cleaning her room one day I found knives in her room. I confronted her and she confessed that she is lesbian and that she and her friend were just playing around with the knives. While the news about being a lesbian was shocking, I was much more concerned about the knives. We contacted our pediatrician who suggested counseling. We did this as a family. In counseling, our daughter told the story of her relationship. It was quite disturbing and our counselor agreed that she was the victim of sexual and mental abuse. She is trying to help our daughter understand this, but I think she is just to young.
We stopped her from seeing her friend and continued counseling for a while. She now feels like we are punishing her because she is lesbian. We set some pretty strict rules and she feels we don't trust her. She doesn't want to go to counseling.
What would you do?