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gmayor1

Parents Uninvolved In Teens Social Life

I have a concern that I am starting to think I am the only one who does. I have a teenage daughter who just recently turned 14. I can remember a time when she was growing up and wanted to play at a friends house meant I would take her there, as long as I knew the parents, meet with them and discuss what they were going to do and when I was going to pick her up, or visa versa. Now, all of a sudden that she's a teenager, parents don't communicate with one another anymore. I just have kids being dropped off at my door, with no formal introduction, no finding out if I'm a mass murderer or have a gun collection, whether or not I have a brother who lives upstairs who's a child molestor (I don't), nothing, they don't even bother coming to the door. They don't even leave me with so much as a phone number or point of contact in case something should happen to their kid while in my care. Don't even get me started on the amount of times I've asked "When is your mom coming to pick you up" and I'm met with either "Uh, she's out running errands and she said after that" (and it's 8:00 at night on a school night), or "You have to take me home 'cuz she's busy." And my daughter wants me to reciprocate and just drop her off without meeting the parents or "making a scene" by saying Hello, my name is so and so, etc. I mean why is it that when your kids turn into teenagers, the parents no longer communicate with each other about get togethers or where their kids are spending their time. I really don't understand it at all. Especially in today's society where you hear about so many horrible things happening. How can people be so trusting? Not to mention that teens lie all the time to get their way, so how am I supposed to trust them when they tell me they have permission to stay longer. Can someone please enlighten me. I'm totally fed up and frustrated.



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mayamay

Post on your daughter's facebook wall that you will be turning teenage visitors away unless their parents have touched base with you. Then do it. The word will spread that you are some kind of nut, but with FB and cell phones there is no excuse for this lack of communication.