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Discussion Title: out of control 17-1/2 year old daughter
Created by: pointofnor... Created on: Wed, 10/07/2009 - 6:45am. I have a 17-1/2 year old daughter that is getting out of control with her love life lately. She recently was to attend her homecoming dance this past weekend, and as always we ask to see their progress reports from school. The rule we have had all throughout their high school years is that if you can not keep your grades at a "c" or higher, you can not attend any dances, games, social activities etc... until the grades improve. My daughter had a "D" in one subject and a"F" in another subject, so... no dance, which was kind of sad since it was her senior year, but the rule is the rule. She then wanted to go over to his house and we again said no. She is now mad at us and has moved out of our house and in with one of her girlfriends and her mother's house. I recently went into her room and found a "Composition Book" in there. Thinking it might have been a book that she might have forgotten to take to school and the writing on the cover stated "Journal for High School", I opened it up and didn't recognize that it was a daily journal or what some people call a diary, but what I was reading made my jaw drop. (I know, I know, I shouldn't have kept reading (dummy dad))).
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Replied: 10/8/2009 9:57am.
Buy her a big box of female condoms and dental dams and teach her how to use them. Make sure she has had the HPV vaccination. Get her accurate current information about STD transmission rates with and without condoms and dental dams and exactly what symptoms and consequences come from having each STD.
Teen pregnancy is not the worst thing that can happen to a sexually active 17 year old.
The bottom line is, we don't want our kids to die. Ever. From anything. Tell her that.
Your response to the situation with your nephew was good. And reading a diary? You are legally responsible for her behavior for about six more months. If she were an adult, it would have been wrong.
Replied: 10/8/2009 12:08pm.
Good advice from acitez. Get her some male condoms also and put her on some kind of birth control. Planned Parenthood is a good resource.
As far as reading the diary, as long as she is living in your home, adult or not, it is YOUR home. My 25 y/o daughter lives with me and knows that as long as she is in my home she is expected to abide by the house rules. When your daughter moves out and is paying all her own bills, she will have all the privacy she wants. Until then, it is your house, your rules, and she will have consequences for her inappropriate choices.