My son drinks and smokes pot...do I buy him a car?
I have two boys both of driving age. I have purchased a car for one of them who is responsible; doesn't drink, smoke pot and stays out of trouble. The other son is looking for me to buy a car but his behavior is reckless and irresponsible. He drinks every weekend and smokes pot at least three times a week maybe more. He has straight A's and is basically a good kid but has recently shown some reckless and irresponsible behavior. He cheated at school and lost is national honor society merit, he and his friends were recent,y pulled over by the police for suspicion of drinking and smoking pot. They refused a car search but the driver a 17 year old friend of my son was high and received three tickets. There was also a 30 pack of beer in the drunk and an open bottle of alcohol. The reason I know all this is because my son is somewhat honest and tells us. He wants a car and my husband thinks its completely unfair that we haven't bought him one when we bought my other son a car. But my response has always been that he clearly is not responsible and we can't take the chance he will hurt himself or someone else if we buy him a car. This has caused significant turmoil between me and my husband. Should I cave and buy my other son a car or stand my ground and why? Comments would greatly be appreciated. FYI...my oldest was irresponsible and had 7 accidents and we almost lost our insurance over it and needed to get her own policy...should my husband be pulling from this experience instead of worrying about what my son doesn't have and how it's not fair to him?