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mcfarso

My daughter's boyfriend's mother

My daughter is 14. She fell in love (had sex) with a 16 year old boy. This boy stays in trouble.... probation, expelled from school and attends a millitary school currently. He will be at this school (several hours away, thank goodness)for 4 more months. She lives, eats and breathes this boy and he has made my relationship with my daughter horrible! I took her to have dinner with him to tell him goodbye when he was leaving for military school. His mother came along, too. He is now coming home for the weekend soon and she wants to see him. Her boyfriend lost my trust and has to gain it back before I will allow my daughter to spend time with him. I am very bitter and hurt that she lost her virginity to this boy. She is a very good girl (student athlete)that is very easily persuaded and very gullible. I want my daughter to see him for what he is and make the decision on her own to "not" desire him! The boy's mother keeps calling my daughter and making plans for all of them without asking me first. She is just bypassing me! My daughter gets her hopes up and when I have to shoot her hopes down with a big "no". The boyfriend's mother is making huge fights with my daughter and I. The boyfriend's mother called me a month ago to ask if I would allow her to take my daughter to visit her son in the military school. I did not call her back in hopes she would take the hint and leave us alone. Now, I call her and leave messages asking her to stop calling my daughter and she will not call me back. When I do talk with her.... what do I say to her? I am shocked she has the audacity to make plans for my daughter with her family without asking me first!



mayamay's picture
mayamay
Call your cell-phone company. I think you may be able to block this woman's phone from calling your daughter. (there might be a fee) You can also send her a registered letter that asks her to quit calling your daughter or contacting her in any way. Although the letter itself will have no legal impact, it could be used to document your efforts if there should be legal action in the future. It's certified mail that you want to use. That gives you proof that the addressee recieved the letter.
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SnglDad
Mayamay took the words right out of my mouth. This is your child, it's your decision, tell the mom and her son to bug off.