My 14 year old daughter..plz help me
I just need some advice from other woman who may have been through this with there daughter, My daughter is a 14 year old who as far back as I can remember has been a handful, She has always been diffucult and a strong willed child, What I need help with is, When her and I get into a fight, SHe will start throwing out insults, saying things like I hate you, I wish you would die etc, I am not sure what to do, I swear she talks to me like I am her friend, there is NO fear in her whats so ever, I always tell her , I am your mother, dont talk to me like that and of course she doesn't stop. I have no idea what to do when this behvior starts, I end up acting just like her and we go back and forth, We are driving the rest of my family nuts!Please help me with ideas to stop this. Im not sure how to react when this starts, Ive tried to ignore it and it only lasts so long til I start DEFENDING myself, I know this sounds bad, Why do I have to defend my parenting skills to my 14 year old....UGH...HELP!!