Mothers & Daughters & how to survive them
I need help, I'm going out of my mind. I love my partner who is the mother of out two teenage daughters aged 15 & 16 years. Both the girls are behaving in typical teenage fashion. The older of the two is confrontational and opinionated and pushes every boundary, but at the same time has a heart of gold and shows flashes of maturity well beyond her years, whilst the younger daughter is deceitful, lies about her whereabouts and gets obsessed about older boys and cars. She is also subject to increasing amounts of rumours that she is taking drugs such as ecstacy. My partner is at her witts end and is struggling to cope, which often results in very ugly confrontations. I hate to see all the confrontation going on and I find myself wanting to put my arms around my daughters to reassure them and provide some guidence whilst acknowledgeing that my partner sees this as me taking sides against her and failing to provide a united front. What am I supposed to do, I love my daughters and I love my partner. I understand that sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind and that discipline has to be introduced when behaviour is unacceptable, sometimes I feel that when there are heated confrontations it is difficult for me to accept what is said or done, even though I realise this is in the 'heat of the moment'. There are plenty of guides relating to difficult teenagers and mother/daughter relationship issues and indeed dad / daughter relationships. There are very few, if any, guides about what dads should do in situations where there is conflict between mothers & daughters and what dads should be doing to keep everything together. I find myself trying to be peacemaker and walking on eggshells. Will this period really be over at some point and my relationships still be intact ?