Help! My 17 yo boy likes a 14 yo girl!
How short can I make a long story? My boy is ADHD and immature so the girls his age won't give him the time of day. He has never dated. He works part time in the spring and fulltime in the summer and he has a 3.5 GPA so he has his strong points. He has one good friend (who is part of our church family) that he visits in town regularly, but we live out in the country and he hasn't wanted to get his license yet so he is really dependent on us so we know where he is at all times, which is school, work and home accept when he sees his buddy. Apparently, this girl lives across the street from his buddy and they are now infatuated with each other. They have been talking on the phone for 6 months and she just turned 14! He led us to believe she was in high school too and now I hear that she lied to her parents about his age as well. Our boy's friend's mother finally told us that the girl is grounded for sneaking out and going over to her house in the middle of the night when my son was there - I can't believe she didn't tell us when it happened, but that is another dilemma. Apparently, nothing happened because her parents knew she snuck out right away and because we always know his whereabouts, we don't think he is sexually active - YET!! We just don't know what to do, but we have told him he is in no way allowed to continue this relationship. Normally, we have been lenient about who he talks with on the phone, but he's never had a girlfriend and she will be at his high school next year and he will be 18 so we don't know how to deal with this. I am going to call her mother and hopefully she will be on the same page with us, but we also realize the limitation of our control once he turns 18 next year. Please give some advice. I know this girl comes from a good and moral home so I doubt she is trouble and I know that my son just wants to have a girlfriend and maturity wise they are probably compatible, but I just don't know how to convince him that this is just not acceptable. Please help. Any advice would be helpful. My husband is furious!