HELP HELP PLEASE Daughter Suspended
Well on top of everything else now she has been suspended from school for 3 days. She was suspended for fighting.
The situation is this. A girl has antagonized my daughter and said horrible things to and about her for a long time now. Probably around three years. My daughter has never said or done anything to retaliate. Today she embarrassed my daughter in front of the whole class and then continued to embarrass her later on in the halls by pointing, full arm stretched and laughing. Then the other girl got right up in my daughters face, nose to nose, and yelled at her. So my daughter pushed her back to get her out of her face, then the other girl started punching and pulled her to the ground by her hair and then punching and hair pulling were exchanged.
Now, mind you I DO NOT advocate fighting, I do however advocate defending yourself against a bully. And in this circumstance where the girl has made my daughter’s life a living hell for so many years, I feel that the three day suspension is enough of a punishment and I don’t feel she should be punished or given further punishment at home. My husband and I have always said if you were put in that situation then you should defend yourself and you may get suspended from school but you will not be in trouble at home.
Now my husband wants to ground her for getting suspended. I don’t think that’s right especially after us saying it’s ok to defend yourself, even though she technically made the first move, she was only defending herself against the years and years of bullying.
Am I wrong? Should she be punished at home?