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Discussion Title: has internet porn effected teens relationship with mom
Created by: mkirpes
Created on: Sun, 05/27/2007 - 6:48pm.

My 17 year old Asperger son is an honor student and is well liked at school by teachers and students. He wins all kinds of awards and I am proud of him.Since he turned 17, when he walks into the house at home he turns into something terrifying for the entire family. He has threatened to kill me and his dad and has even attacked me a couple of times. Once he was even admitted to a mental hospital for this behavior, but he still says he hates me and will not ever look at me. If he accidentally touches me he goes ballistic and destroys our home with holes in walls and etc. he doesn't even want to talk to me and my husband and older son do not want to confront him (due to their own Asperger syndrome). so we spend our days walking on egg shells. Recently I found out that he has been surfing porn sites on the internet and I found out he started this shortly after he turned 17. I can't help but feel that this is the cause of the problem and I am not sure what to do. My oldest son and husband refuse to talk to him, I have notified his doctor, and do not allow him to be alone with the computer, but things remain strange.

Please help me...I am clueless and I miss the wonderful relationship we always had. Has anyone ever experienced this?

 

Author: Host Marti
Replied: 5/28/2007 1:55pm.

Hey mkirpes,

 

Welcome to the boards.  It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time with your son right now.  I have not experienced anything like this but I know that many many parents have experienced it.

 

It sounds like you still have him in counseling and that you talked to his doctor, what did the counselor have to say about it?  Any ideas to help you cope or help to change this behavior?

 

I am a firm believer that too much time wrapped up in the computer, no matter what the activity, can cause kids to be distant and disrespectful.  I feel the same way about too much television. 

 

It sounds like you are trying hard and that you just have to stick with what you are doing and also keep close contact with the professionals to help you do what is best for him and for you.

 

Good luck, please keep us posted.

 

Marti

 

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Author: mkirpes
Replied: 5/29/2007 2:34am.

Thank you for your response. I have been very careful about too much computer time and I still have dial up to keep it that way. Keeping the laptop with me as much as possible also helps. I have never allowed my children to watch R rated movies until 18 and have never bought computer games or other video games for them. since they have a form of autism I feel that love and sex are difficult for them to comprehend.

When you say that other parents have experienced similar problems that makes me feel a bit better, but I would like to know what they did or if their kids outgrew it. His doctor will not tell me why my son hates me, even though my son told him and I find myself constantly trying to figure it out.