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MEANMOM

GETTING RESPECT BACK FROM MY 14 YR OLD

MY 14 YR OLD GIRL TELLS ME TO SHUT UP ... TELLS ME NO WHEN I TELL HER TO GO TO HER ROOM , TURNS UP THE TV WHEN I'M TALKING, SAYS TO ME DO YOU COMPREHEND WHAT I'M SAYING, WHEN I DON'T HEAR WHAT SHE SAID. SAYS YOU AND YOUR STUPID HUSBAND, HER STEP DAD SINCE SHE WAS 3 YRS OLD. I WANT TO FIGURE THIS OUT ON MY OWN.. JUST NEED SOME ADVICE?



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concerned mom

She's a teenager, and she's getting away w/ it. You need to step things up a notch, and get even firmer w/ your daughter. You can't allow her to disrespect you or your husband like that. Be stong, and be consistent. Your husband needs to be on the same page as you too. If what you're doing is not working, start taking priviledges away that really matter to your daughter. Stand your ground or she'll walk all over you. When you say something, mean it. Don't just dismiss it b/c your daughter refuses to listen. Something will hit a nerve w/ her sooner or later, and she'll have to obey you, otherwise she won't get her way.
Hang in there, and good luck!

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MEANMOM

THANK YOU FOR YOUR ADVICE

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Belcher212

Hello,
Sounds like you for sure need to get control back. I have a 15 yr old & would NEVER allow her to speak to me in that manner or anyone else. Something we need to realize as parents is: we dont have to buy them things,let them talk on the phone,be on the computer, give rides every place they want to go, let them go to friends houses,school functions,watch t.v etc....
If it were me,I would have a talk w/her,let her know you love her & want to give her freedoms & your trust.Let her know how it hurts you when she acts this way & how things are gonna change around there!That until she decides to give you & your husband the respect you deserve,all these things will be taken away.You dont have to allow her any freedoms at all.I wouldnt let her do anything but go to school & sit in her room w/no music,t.v,computer etc..make her life boring. I would give the things back one by one,only as she earns them & as she shows she's trying to work this out & respect you both.
To many parents allow their children to treat them disrespectful & then turn around & give them a ride to a friends,or let them have computer,cell phones etc... These are all priveledges!!! All we have to do is:feed,clothe & put a roof over there head.The rest is up to us as to what they have & are allowed to do.
May sound harsh,but if it's not gotten under control,you will have way bigger problems than this later on. If you cant control it now,what will you do once even older???
Try the tougher love. Once she sees that you dont have to do any of the "extras", she will most likely come around------if she wants to have a life again that is.